At my DS (3.5) latest parents evening, his teacher had concerns that he may have additional needs. In their words, he is overly smart but has social problems. I know he is smart, and have been told this on and off for the last year, but I also work with him at home on this as he really enjoys learning. He knows his phonetics and can read words if they are sounded phonetically, has a great memory and loves songs so is able do all the months of the year and seasons as he learnt them in song form. And learnt the alphabet the same way quite early on.
Socially I guess he is a bit awkward. But I don’t have any friends with children the same age. They are either all much older or younger. Apparently at nursery he doesn’t really play with anyone, but he tells me he does and has a ‘best friend’ (this best friend can change often but 1 person gets named a lot). I know what he experiences may be different from the reality, but is he that wrong? I take him to soft play and he will often try to make a friend. So maybe not quite so socially awkward.
I have worked with children on the spectrum and he doesn’t show any major flags. His communication is great. He likes routine (so do I!) but won’t be put out too much if this changes. Has good eye contact. He is often shy around new people but will usually come around and play with them. He is generally a happy and smart little boy
the nursery wanted to flag the issue and potentially take the steps further as he is starting school next year and don’t want him to struggle in a big class. Do I follow through or give him a bit longer to develop?