My little boy keeps saying mean things about himself :(

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My son has just turned 4 and I’ve noticed when he’s emotional (and sometimes when he’s not) he will say things like he hates himself and that he’s a fat idiot and other terms.

when I hear him say these things I tell him how wonderful he is and list his qualities and remind him he’s loved very much for who he is.

i don’t think he quite grasps what he’s saying but I don’t want him to grow up hating himself.

as a child and young adult I suffered terribly (at my own hands) with awful thoughts about myself and I’d call myself names in my head, for example If something didn’t work out as I planned or expected I’d be thinking well I am worthless or not worthy of anything good happening and I really don’t want my son to grow up with the same feelings

any advice?

You’re doing the right thing but he’s hearing that from somewhere either someone is saying those things to him or someone around him is saying it to someone else infront of him

I never thought of that.

ive messaged his dad and he’s confirmed nothing is said like that when he’s with him but he will keep an ear out

ill mention it to nursery aswell.