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Is it normal to feel like this?

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turtleycoool · 07/12/2023 11:45

I don’t know if this is pregnancy hormones ! But with my now just turned 2 year old in the full swing of tantrums

ive felt so upset and worried he doesn’t like me

he throws more tantrums for me and I’d say more emotion in them. He goes to nursery and they said doesn’t really tantrum, then has a day with his Nan who says only has the odd short one. Same for when he’s alone with DH, no major tantrums

this has made me feel like he doesn’t like me I feel like I’ve went from my little cuddly baby to my very grown up boy who is very vocal with his feelings haha!

is this just normal to feel like this toddler stage? Or am I being hormonal

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ohnoreallyagain · 07/12/2023 11:50

My little boy behaves worse for me than for anyone else too. He's good as gold for his nanna, behaves beautifully at nursery and is a terror when I'm with him.

Jolo2210 · 07/12/2023 11:52

Your post struck a chord with me op, my DS now 13 was similar when he was little and I thought he didn't like me at all for a while. It became a running (not very funny) home that he'd always greet me with a tantrum. My very wise MIL suggested that maybe it's the opposite - that he felt completely safe letting out emotions that he bottles up in other places where he felt a little less secure. That he let rip with me as he knew it was safe and I'd still love him.

Jolo2210 · 07/12/2023 11:53

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bogoblin · 07/12/2023 12:02

It's the opposite, OP. He lets loose and tantrums with you because he feels safe to! It's not that he doesn't feel safe with his dad or at nursery or other family members but that he's so comfortable and safe and happy with you - you were his first home remember - that he really feels he can let out his emotions. All totally normal.

Also two year olds are terrors, they're all like that! 😂

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turtleycoool · 07/12/2023 12:19

Thanks everyone :( we had a tough night last night. Certain nursery meals he doesn’t like so at least 1 day a week he comes home starving but of course is a toddler so doesn’t understand waiting or food cooking etc - I give a snack and he gets so annoyed waiting for his dinner! Then flips his lid and I get sad :(

I think also like he’s getting better going into nursery as he’s getting older I mean this is reassuring as he does 3 days a week (used to do 4) so if he was clinging to me at drop off I’d be concerned about the nursery

but he is growing so fast and I think I just keep thinking of him as my little cuddly baby but now he’s really feeling so many emotions and unsure how to express

but yes are all 2 year olds major kick offs?😂

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Katherina02837 · 07/12/2023 13:24

"It's the opposite, OP. He lets loose and tantrums with you because he feels safe to"
Exactly! My DD is the most well-behaved child at nursery or anywhere elsewhere, but she is saving all of her tantrums for me!
I am also pregnant at the moment, and having a hard time with this. I usually let her have her tantrum and put her on the carpet in the middle of the room where is safe. In the meantime, I try to calm her down - I ask her a lot of questions until she manages to express herself.

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