How much do you let your children shout in the house?

[Havanawinter]

I hate shouting, I am not a shouter and I find the loud noise jarring. I am neurodivergent but try to mask it. That being said, I have 2 DS’s, 3 and 6. The 6 year old especially shouts at the top of his lungs for no reason. He shouts all through bath time. He’ll randomly yell “POO POO” and similar during the day. He has 2 volumes, loud and louder. I hate shouting but I turn a blind eye to some of it because I get kids are just kids. If it gets too much I’ll go upstairs for some quiet. If it’s shouting as part of a game it’s fine but just yelling for the sake of it makes me wince! DH thinks I’m too anti-shouting and a killjoy even though I try really hard not to be. How much shouting is normal and what is beyond that? This probably makes no sense at all, sorry!

That's entirely different.

Do not allow shouting all though bath time. That's not right.

What?! Absolutely not. They dont get to scream and shout.

the six year old in particular should have more control over inside and outside voice. They need correcting every time.

Also... bit of a tangent here but I do my best to talk in a calm, quiet voice when the children are shouting. Modelling behaviour and all that. DH, OTOH, will put up with it until he can't stand it and then shouts at them to stop shouting 🙄 He never seems to see the irony!

Not saying I never raise my voice. Of course I do. But I start by asking them calmly. Don't know how they are supposed to learn not to shout if their parent does it a lot!

None. They might shriek around during a summertime water fight but no shouting in the house.

We’ve always had an ‘inside voices” rule.

Flare calmer earplugs for you? If they shout while driving stop and pull over and tell em the car won’t go if there’s shouting..

I don't mind a slightly raised voice if they're not sure which room the person they want is in as long as they then go to the person to have the conversation.

Otherwise I hate shouting and shrieking and excessively loud voices indoors. I also dislike it when children are using play area or park volume in back gardens too.

I find it weird when I read threads on here where posters insist that anyone objecting to children shrieking, screaming and shouting hates children having fun.

No shouting or shrieking allowed in our house, no need for it and my oh works nights so it has been drilled into them from an early age.

My kids are not allowed to shout in the house or our garden.