Child is 13. I am a single parent. Child has had a spoilt upbringing by GPs and visits them often where they are still very spoilt there not getting up to get own snack etc. Tonight they went to an activity as a treat with another family which meant I had to stay up until 1am to collect them. On the way home they said they were thirsty and hungy so I said ok I’ll make toast when we get home. They wanted cereal. They take at least 10minutes to finish cereal as a very slow eater so I said no. I’ve already stayed up until 1am so I’m not willing to stay up for them to finish their food so I offered - toast, pancake, crumpet or a few biscuits to just quickly treat the hunger and go straight to bed. They refused this and proceeded to refuse to eat or drink because they only wanted cereal. Now I’m an awful parent - again. At home is the only place they actually have rules and dicipline but they see it as me being an awful parent and being angry all the time. Any time something like this happens I am made out to be an unkind, angry person and they write in a notepad how I don’t love them and how they didn’t try to do what they did (like slamming a door because I refused to get out of my bath to plug their telly in because they took it out and couldn’t get it back in). They do this then leave it out somewhere they know I’ll see and read it. It’s really getting me down as I know the behaviour needs to be addressed and this is why I do it but then it’s made out a massive thing and they just basically have a strop and do things like this. Are they feelign this or is it manipulation?