House moves and kids school

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I posted recently about a serious case of buyers remorse over a recent house move which seems to be getting worse and worse every day.

Our plan before we moved had been to move the kids schools to the school on the estate where we have moved however a few months into this move everything has unravelled for so many reasons to the point where i just want to get the house back on the market as soon as we can back to the area we just moved from.

Currently i’m doing the school run back to where they have always been - they’re happy and settled and have all their friends there. I work close by to the school aswell. My other half wants to move them to closer to where we live, but my struggle is if we are going to move back again should we go through the upheaval of changing schools, only to change them back again whenever we do end up moving back or do we keep them where we are. If i continue on the current commute it’s a trip up and down the motorway everyday which is something I would never have wanted or imagined we’d be doing.

The move in general has triggered depression and anxiety … I wish we’d never put ourselves in this situation from where we used to be so happy and settled and content, but here we are and neither option is great right now. I don’t really even know what i’m hoping to achieve from posting this maybe other than just wanting to get it out if my head … it’s causing me alot of anxietyjust wondering what i should do.

Anyone else ever been through similar?

Sorry it hasn’t worked out as you hoped. Never done similar but my thoughts are same as yours - if you think you might move again I’d do everything i could to keep them at their current school rather than move them and potentially move them again. You can always change your mind again in a few months or a year if you decide to stay where you’re living.

Leave the kids where they are until you decide what you are actually going to do.
There’s no guarantee that kids will get places in schools these days.

op you have posted about this multiple times

i feel for you

but i think you just need to accept this is happening and make the best of it. I imagine your negativity is seeping in to family life. which is going to make family life difficult for everyone

Thanks - i’ve only posted about the school situation this once - but thanks for your advice anyway.

Do you work Op? The reason i ask is that i think you spend so much time thinking and worrying about this, that a distraction during the day may be helpful

Thank you ☺️ It’s hard when even if you’re set on moving you don’t know how long the process will take which potentially resigns us to the motorway commute, no local friends for them, for an indefinite time … however they will have familiarity with where they are …. the alternative is upheaval and resettling in an area we aren’t happy in and no local friends for as long as we do have to stay … sorry for the ramblings.

think every minute of the day about moving again, it's all consuming.

this is concerning

Having the kids' school locally will help ground you and find them local friends. All the time you have to drive them it is giving you, and perhaps them, hope that you can move back again. At least enquire about spaces and consider it. Why did you move away? There must have been positives to doing so,

I do feel for you. We weren’t in the same situation but sat in rented trying to buy in a red hot market was awful. It consumed me more than I thought it would. It depends how realistic moving back is going to be and in what time frame. Less than 18 months I would stick at it. More than that and I would move the children.

Why did you move in the first place? Think about your reasons for doing it. You must have had some.

Secondly what are the secondaries like local to you now compared to where you were before? Is there a benefit to staying where you are for the long term gain?

Lots of children have commutes to school, those that live rurally, those that move house. We moved house for an incredible secondary, I went from walking the children to school to driving them every day down a 70mph dual carriageway, chocked with traffic at a certain point but it was for the secondary and the larger house. No regrets for me but I have had a house regret in the past, I kept reminding myself of why we moved and that we had done the right thing and to look forward instead of backwards.

What’s wrong with the house and the move?