AIBU - asking MIL to remove pictures of my newborn from social media?

[jefl]

I gave birth to my DS 3 weeks ago tomorrow. MIL came to visit 3 days after he was born and asked for a photo with him (fine by me and DH).

The next day she posted the picture as her profile picture. I really didn't want pictures of him on social media but didn't make this clear to MIL.

Am I unreasonable to ask her to remove 2 weeks after she posted it?

I would probably let that one go but make a firm rule going forward

I think you've lost the moment with that one but use it as an opportunity to clarify with family you don't want pictures on social media.

Profile picture is probably the worst place she could have posted it as it will be publicly available. I would ask her to remove it and apologise for not making clear you didn't want pictures of the baby on social media.

YANBU but get your partner / her son to ask her to reduce the risk of offence

In reality a picture of your newborn baby isn't even going to look like him in a months time, so I'd let that photo slide and just clarify that moving forward you don't want any new photos posting?

My dad posted a pic of our newborn. I didn’t see (I was still in hospital) and my sister asked him if he’d checked with me first. He took it down.

My husband and i don’t post pictures of our children on SM and everyone else knows that now too. Our children can decide for themselves when they’re old enough.

He’ll look very different to his newborn photos soon, if he doesn’t already. I’d let this one slide but in future ask MIL not to post photos online.

I'd also let this slide. Just on the sensible basis that your newborn will look much the same as any other newborn right now. MiL is obv chuffed to bits to be a granny, and that's lovely.
Just get your husband to tackle the issue of future pics - say you'll be doing the same and not sharing on SM. Of course if you do, then that blows the rule out of the water! So be clear that it's a blanket rule for one and all

I'd let it go this time. As people have said, your baby will be a newborn for just a few weeks and then fill out and look like a different baby so it's not going to identifying. She’s obviously a proud and excited granny (hopefully one that will babysit in future!). Just get your dh to mention no more photos on SM moving forward.