Am i doing enough?

[TwinMummaX]

I have 5.5month old twins ds/dd. In between napping/feeding we go to the park for walks, we sing nursery rhymes, lay on the playmat with rattles etc. Started to look at books and also go to a play group once a week. Sometimes i just feel like i should be doing more with them. We go out a couple of times a week to see family too. Does anyone else have any suggestions to keep them active at this age? They sleep well, feed well and are very content babies just having one of them days where i am doubting myself and wondering if there is more i could be doing to help their development. Thanks for reading

Is there a playgroup?

Sounds like you're doing brilliantly! Nice balance of activities and chill time. Great work

Sounds fab to me. Lots of one and one time with their main care giver, time with loved ones, lovely playtimes, playgroup. Sounds fab. I used to pop mine in the pram and head out for a walk as long as it wasn’t raining.
Dont stress, you sound like you’ve got a good level of activity. Come spring when they’re walking about you can add in the park.

If you are happy then you don't NEED to do anything else. This all sounds great.

For development the most important things are a safe, warm loving environment, then enough of the basics (milk/food, sleep etc) and time outside of "containers" (car seat, pram etc) so they can practice rolling, sitting, reaching for things etc.

There is a whole world of marketing trying to convince you you should be doing endless "things" with babies to "help their development" (and of course buy this £££ product, course, book, etc) but the reality is that all the normal, everyday interaction that you will naturally have if you're not totally neglecting them is all the stimulation that they need.

Don't worry :) Sounds like you're doing plenty. It's also important to balance your own needs and ensure that you don't completely burn out trying to juggle all the balls at once.

Yes you're doing Great

If it's not broke, don't fix it!

Sounds perfect. Keep talking to them lots, and do things that you enjoy as much as you can.

I wondered about playgroup as it's nice to get out. Just to clarify I wouldn't say they need more than what you're doing. It sounds like they get out enough :)

That sounds like all of their needs are met.

I guess the only question is what do you need to meet your needs?

They started because it was the only way to get my daughter to nap but I went for a 2-3h walk every day. I took a flask of coffee, some snacks and a bunch of podcasts. It turned into my moment of calm in a life of chaos.... What gives you YOUR moment of calm!

We had trips to the library just to break up the monotony of baby books too.

Thank you everyone i appreciate the kind words and reassurance it was definitely needed today. Im just a worrier and i want to make sure (being a FTM) i am doing everything i need to be doing for them to keep their little brains ticking and developing. I also enjoy the nice walks around the park with a coffee in hand!

Yes! You are doing enough! Don't compare yourself to singleton mums taking babies to baby massage/ swimming lessons etc, that's difficult/impossible with twins unless you have a helper. It sounds like you are doing a lovely job of engaging with your babies.

Check out what classes are on in your area. My dcs loved Hartbeeps, Monkey Music and Gymboree at that age. In this weather it's nice to get them out of the house but to an indoor space. They will be crawling soon and it's good for them to have a clean safe place to explore on their hands and knees. At home is fine but it probably gets boring for you after a while.

Yes i would like to go to more groups but it is a bit tricky with 2 that cant yet sit up unaided and most friends/family work so its hard to get a helper every week but once they can sit up i will be trying a few more groups

Your local HV might know of a twins group, I know we have one in our town.