How much does your 5/6 year old moan?

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I have one DD, age 5.5

OMG the moaning! It’s driving me insane.

She has a lovely life - lovely school with sweet friends, engaged and loving parents & grandparents, a lovely home. DH and I both love the outdoors so we’re always very keen to play in garden, walks, cycling, other outdoorsy stuff. Overall she’s a happy and outgoing child. Loves school.

But the moaning at the weekends is getting me down.

We try and give her a mix of time at home to unwind at the weekends mixed with going out to do stuff, but whenever we suggest leaving the house it’s met with moaning meltdowns, so for example if we suggest cycling or swimming it is met with an almighty meltdown, but then she loves it when we get there.

Is this normal?! It’s ruining the weekends

Anyone?

Oh yeah sounds like my daughter. Has everything she could ever want but is never happy. Always asking for more, doesn't appreciate anything, and has meltdowns whenever she is asked to do something she deems 'boring' or unnecessary at that time. I have no advice, just wanted to say you're not alone and I'm sure they'll grow out of it?!? 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

More moaning today.

Just gutting when you’re an engaged and active parent who actually wants to do stuff with your kids and all I get is whinging. I’ve turned the Wi-Fi off today, we’re not having internet if we refuse to go out / play nicely

I have similar frustrations. Lots of whingy noises, moaning when asked to get dressed, clean teeth, put shoes on....it's very draining. There are consequences for rudeness, tantrums and whinging which does work. The whinging over nothing and dramatic emotional breakdowns over not being able to zip a coat up or being told no happen continously though. DC1 is 5.5 and generally a lovely person aside from the moaning.

I have an 8yo and 5yo twins, nearly 6.

8yo moan, moan, MOAN. and moan some more.

Twins -happy as Larry. I mean, they can be difficult for sure, but they're just much more resilient/ go with the flow.

8yo is bright, imaginative, sensitive - I think this feeds into it. Whereas the twins are just naturally more grounded and pragmatic, don't use their imaginations so much, very much into what's in front of them iyswim.

I think it's just personalities, but I'll admit it is a part of 8yo character that I find trying. We talk to her actively these days about enjoying the moment, looking for the good etc, as long term I worry for her MH.

Random Q- does yours get enough sleep? As I always find 8yo is more like this when she's tired.

@JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff yes she’s asleep by 7pm latest each night so sleep not an issue. Don’t have to wake up for school until 7am

I have a whingey/moany 6 year old. Sometimes she'll just randomly start making whinging noises for no reason. She even says when told to stop it 'but whingeing is my favourite thing to do!'

I find that she hates 'transitions.' So she enjoys Rainbows and dancing but if I tell her it's time to get ready for them she will moan and often cry. Sometimes it helps to give her a time warning of 'in ten minutes you'll need to get ready for Rainbows' etc but sometimes it makes no difference - she'll moan at the warning and moan when the time is up. Once she's ready and it's time to leave the house she's fine.

Sometimes she'll try asking for something by pointing to it and making a whingeing noise! I make her actually ask for whatever it is she wants!

She's not a very good walker, as in she'll moan she's tired very quickly, but yet she moans about having to get a bus as well! I had visions of lovely weekend walks along the river bank etc but often it's easier to just stay in!

I'm hoping she just grows out of it! Luckily (unluckily?) she saves it all for home and does what she's asked with no bother for other people!