Our child is 4 and I’m the strict one. I don’t shout, but it must be the tone I use as he listens to me, yet my husband is far more chilled, so he pushes him if he says no, until he says yes, yet he’s surprised if he acts out when he then doesn’t give in. He then acts like the child expecting our child to be sorry for acting out, or complains how difficult he’s been (he’s generally really well behaved). It gets on my nerves as if feels like the discipline is all on me. He is an amazing dad, does 50/50 but it’s always ‘do you want me to have to call mummy’ if he’s not doing as he asks, or he loses his cool and calls me to intervene. How can we change this as it’s frustrating as I just get on with it if he’s acting up for me, I can’t really call on him to intervene as our son knows the buck stops with me. Even with certain treats, it falls to me to make the decision on if he can have something ‘if mummy says it’s ok’…. Is this normal for one parent to be the strict one? If not, how do we change it? I’m naturally more assertive, which it feels like he uses as an excuse.