HATE my dc’s dad

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Honestly so fed up with not even Co-parenting but him counter-parenting, for just about her whole life!! And she is nearly a teenager. It was a very short lived mentally abusive relationship and He’s the sort of person that would say the sky is red, even if it is so clearly blue, 100 people could tell him it’s blue he still wouldn’t believe it. It really makes parenting hard and is my biggest regret!! I have more DC with my now DH and honestly it’s so different, even if we weren’t together we would still manage to co parent and be on the same page. Really wish I could go back in time. Rant over! Anyone else feel the same ?

Do you want to tell us a bit more about what he's been up to?

Just years and years of counter parenting, it’s just a lot sometimes!

I've witnessed this but from his ex wife. It is exhausting

I know just what you mean by counter parenting. Had many years of it.

My advice, ask your daughter ''how does that make you feel?''. ''Do you feel supported to make that choice?'' Did you want to do that? What were your thoughts on that.

Try to detach from the anger you feel towards him and channel it all in to ensuring that she feels seen, heard, understood and supported.

If I hadn't done this, my x would have managed to manipulate her. He did try. He still tries to make her feel guilty about not leaping to do his bidding. I don't hate him (now) I feel sorry for him. His life would be a lot easier if he understood that people are their own entities and not parts he wrote, going off-script, exasperating him with their ad libs

ALL OF MY SYMPATHIES THOUGH. it's a long fucking road counter parenting with a mad man

other people wouldnt get it, because it's the relentlessness of it, the small things
You say that will meet at the station and then when you're there and you've paid to park, you get a text saying no the bus station. Or you arrange a certain day off work to take your DC to his for his mother's birthday and you ask him to confirm the date because the flights are going up and you would like to just get it booked, but he won't confirm. then you find out that the venue was booked a month before he would confirm it. 20 years of that and you're ready for the funny farm.