Good evening everyone, should I being doing this?
one of my oldest friends I have known since we were teenagers is getting married at a gorgeous venue in Majorca next summer. Their wedding was postponed to next summer, instead of Summer 2021 after welcoming their baby boy.
I got married Summer 2022 ( in which they were invited to and attended) and myself and my husband since welcomed our own baby in March.
They have since resent new invitations for their new date, and have advised this will be an adult only celebration, with their own child being an exception which is perfectly fine. Their day, their rules. Reason being venue is up a mountain and their numbers are very small. Again, no issue here, we chose not to have children at our own wedding.
DH and I agreed that neither of us would attend, and would decline. However, after speaking to the couple, without mentioning our plans, they have said they are delighted and grateful that we will be attending. After a discussion with DH, he suggested that I travel solo and he stay behind to look after DS. Travelling to Majorca on the Saturday morning and returning on the Tuesday, which will mean 3 nights away from DH and DS. I was unsure at first, but he said, why not, he is perfectly capable of looking after DS who will be 15 months at the time of travel and our parents live close by if he needs a hand. He said I deserve the break, and it would clearly mean a lot to the couple.
Most of their wedding guests will be travelling for a week, but, I have decided to go for 3 nights, to not only be involved in the brides Hen party, but a pre dinner the night before and the day itself, coming home Tuesday morning which is the day after the wedding. I am quietly excited at the thought of having a few nights away to let my hair down and be me again, safe in the knowledge that DS would be able to spend some quality time with his father and other family members in my absence. I will FT multiple times a day. Advised my DM about my plans and she was absolutely horrified, explaining she never had any nights away from me until I was at least 10, 3 nights is far too long and will be upsetting for DS. Implying I am doing something very wrong indeed and That I lost all right to any “me time” the day I decided to become a parent. My argument is, I am going for a wedding, I’m not booking a random holiday alone for no reason, DH isn’t joining me, and DS is not being “palmed off” to grandparents or strangers! I have booked the trip, and now feel so guilty that I’ve even done so. AIBU to feel this way? I was looking forward to it, now I just feel guilty that I am, that I’ve booked it, and thinking perhaps I should be spending the money on DS instead.
hit my with your opinions please.