4 year old behaviour at nursery concerning

[Boymumoftwo2]

I have a 4 year old at nursery who is in his second year and will be going to school in the following September. He currently has a speech delay, however has made alot of progress with his talking.
in the past few weeks he’s shown a lot of interest in another boy to the point he won’t leave him alone , he’s getting himself very frustrated and upset. the other boy is younger and doesn’t speak much so he’s been scared by my sons behaviour. It has now escalated to the point my son has started to hit this other boy and won’t leave him alone. We have never seen this type of behaviour before and we’ve talked to my son loads about this behaviour not being acceptable , however I don’t know how much he’s understanding after nursery is over.
just wondering if anyone has any advice or has been in a similar situation ?

Yes sounds like need a referral for psych assessment as I’d be wondering about ASD - can take years unless go private so a good idea to look into it asap.

feel v sorry for your son and the other boy but maybe you need to remove him from this setting and look at an alternative?

Quick update

I went into the nursery myself to watch them play and I got my son to say sorry when he was playing rough with the little boy and now it’s stopped , my son seems to react better when he’s told to apologise and that’s how he knows he’s done something wrong. Nursery were keeping them apart after any incidents so he didn’t know he was in the wrong. All settled down now and have had no incidents since thankfully.

I'm pleased to hear your son seems to be settling down now. Not a nice situation for all involved. Always think that it must be just as difficult if your child is doing the hitting, as the one being hit, because no-one understands the latter and can often judge you and your parenting.