Sad Mummy

[MummyLK]

I had my son about 4 weeks ago, so perhaps some of this is the postpartum time talking. But I'm wondering if this feeling I have will go away as my son gets older? We didn't find out the gender before birth, but I was so sure I was having a girl and mentally every time I thought ahead, I imagined a girl. I had a boy, and I love him of course, but I can't get past feeling sad that I'll never get to do girl things like I thought. Today I went to a shop with my mum and sister to buy a party dress for a friend's daughter and it really hit me that I want to be buying things like that and it made me really sad. Has anyone else had this feeling? I love my son, and I wouldn't change him for anything, more just sad that I'm missing out?

Hi OP,

Yes I felt that way when I first found out DS was a boy at our 20 week scan, there were days throughout pregnancy and after he was born I felt gutted I didn't get my daughter. Yes it definitely improves, some days I felt that way when a friend had a daughter etc but honestly it lasted about 30 minutes, there are so many lovely things about having a son. I now have a DD and love having my baby girl and tbh I appreciate my DS even more, his personality and becoming a big brother is lovely to see. Do you plan to have more? You may have a girl in the future but even if you don't the feeling of missing out on having a daughter will go as you see more of your DS personality coming through

I have a daughter and I've been told by a mum of two boys that she is wasted on me as i don't put her in headbands and glittery dresses.

The truth is, i thought that was harsh. Children aren't objects and whilst so young and little boys and girls have the same interests anyway