4 year old wets bed

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I'm just looking for advice re: bed wetting.

My Daughter is nearly 4 and wears a nappy to bed as she wee's most nights. She will occasionally be dry for a few nights so we try sleeping without a nappy but then she will wet the bed again.

We limit water before bed, she always has a wee before bed,we've also started putting her on the toilet around 10pm but it's not helping.

Any advice? Perhaps I'm just expecting too much? My eldest only ever wet the bed once. I wet the bed until I was really quite old (I think around 9 years old), so I'm worried she will go the same way.

This is totally normal and not something she can control. Have a look at the ERIC website.
My daughter wasn't dry at night until she was six and my son is seven.
There is no point in stressing out about it just let her wear pullups until she is dry. I wouldn't start worrying about it until she is over six .

Night time dryness is hormonal. Keep her in nappies until she is consistently dry for at least 2 weeks and then try again.

DD was 6 until she was dry at night but DS was 4 so it can really vary.

Oh, and it's really pointless putting them on the toilet in the middle of the night because it just means their bladder won't get trained to go through the night
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Approximately half of children in reception class, so a year older than yours, aren't dry at night yet. Nowhere near the time to be concerned as yet.

Approximately half of children in reception class, so a year older than yours, aren't dry at night yet. Nowhere near the time to be concerned as yet.

She won't be dry until she starts producing a hormone, vasopressin - there's not a lot to do until then. GP won't be interested before about 8.

Eric website is good for advice. The other thing we were told was to drink a lot of water during the day to stretch the bladder, and nothing after dinner.

Get some good reusable bed pads that aren't noisy (we had these) and don't stress about it.

Good luck. DS went on medication around 9 (and still required a nappy!), at 11 we have ditched the nappies and are reducing it, hoping to stop soon. People don't talk about it, but it is reasonably common. She certainly won't be the only one in her class.

Great, thanks so much everyone.

I think my expectations were a bit too high since my eldest had no issues.

Good to hear it's totally normal. Will take on board the advice not to put her on the toilet in the night. I did wonder if that might be an issue. I think that's what my parents did with me as I wake 5/6 times a night for a wee still!!!

It’s often genetic and if a parent was a late bedwetter it’s more likely the child will be too, so if you wet the bed till 9 it won’t be unusual for your DD to do similar.

That's a lot of waking for a wee! I was 14 before I was dry at night, and 7 before I was reliably dry in the day. I was diagnosed with an overactive bladder in my 40s as when I needed to go, I got very little warning. Meds have changed my life, so may be worth a chat with your GP.

@Mabelface weirdly, I did actually ring the doctors yesterday because I realised it's not actually normal to wee that much!
I'm waiting for a call back. Hopefully they can sort something because I am sick of waking up so often!!