Today my 6 year old came home from a weekend with her dad & told me that I don’t love her & that I love her sister more.
Hearing her say these words broke my heart, I told her I do love her but she wouldn’t believe me. I had a baby with my fiancée 9 months ago, he has been in her life since she was 2 & lived with us since she was 4.
He works away a lot so with a baby & a 6 year old on my own majority of the time is tough & I do get tired, irritated & snappy with her which I know I shouldn’t but by bed time I’m just fed up & exhausted. I cannot give her my full attention like I used to be able to and with her going to her dads every other weekend & once in the week, I think she thinks she’s being pushed out. Her behaviour changed dramatically since her sister was born & she honestly acts like a 2 year old sometimes it drives me crazy.
I always tell her I love her, we do her homework & reading together, play, go out somewhere on the weekend she’s with me, she goes swimming lessons & rainbows which I always take her too. Her dad has no other children so he’s able to do a lot more with her which I couldn’t do with a baby eg; go ape, Alton towers.
it’s really got me down, I don’t know what more I can do, I spent my last penny on her & I feel like sometimes she is a little ungrateful for what she does do & have considering I’m on maternity pay, I know she doesn’t understand that but I look like the bad guy.
does she genuinely think I don’t love her or is she just craving attention 😭 I have no option to leave my baby with anyone as we don’t live near friends or family & my fiancé works away 3 weeks out of 4.
any advice welcome, I don’t want my baby girl growing up being insecure & feeling this way.