At a recent birthday party my DS (4) got hit on the head by another child. My DS then got a bit hands on with other children so I went to get him (it was at a soft play) and was in the process of explaining to him why we were going home when another mum came and said "your son's been pushing other kids and they say he does it all the time at school". I explained politely I was taking him home as that's what happens if he doesn't follow the rules and left.
I asked his teacher about pushing the following day and they said they hadn't seen this at all.
Anyways, a week or so later the mum from the party comes rushing up to me at drop off and apologised saying she didn't know my son has SEN and how hard that must be for me etc. I was a bit taken aback and accepted the apology.
I'm not sure why I'm quite so upset about what she said but I am. My DS has a speech delay and is being assessed for SEN (he may be ASD) but he has clear boundaries for behaviour and knows there will be a consequence if he chooses not to follow his "rules". We know what is ASD and what is him just being a bit extra. He knows he isn't allowed to push others and if he does there will be a consequence (being taken away from the party, losing something he likes for a set time etc).
I'm also not sure why this mum knows he potentially has ASD or why she thinks this is "hard". It isn't hard, I love him for who he is.
Don't know if I'm just being overly sensitive??