Paternal Grandparents Childcare

[newmumaugust2023]

I am currently 7 months into my maternity leave and starting to think about childcare for my son. My parents and my husbands parents have offered to look after him for the days he will not be in nursery. I have some concerns about my in laws looking after him as they have an unpredictable dog who growls and stares aggressively a lot and once bit my brother in laws leg. He gets very possessive of items. I feel like it's going to be an extremely awkward conversation to have as I don't feel comfortable leaving my child with them but then this is affecting then spending time with their grandson. My husband agrees it is an issue but is still keen for them to look after him so that they get time with our son. He thinks they'll keep the dog separate but I'm not convinced and wouldn't be there to see what's happening.

We have a dog ourselves so it's not that I don't want our child being around dogs, but their dog isn't trained properly and can be very temperamental.

Advice?

Can they look after your dc at your house? I’ve done both and much prefer going to their house as it has all DCs things there, plus my house doesn’t get trashed! It also means they don’t have to spend more time travelling over to my house before and after work.

As with your other thread - any problems with dogs or alcoholism need to be resolved before your child is left in their care.

Did you post exactly the same post but the problem was your FIL drinking heavily rather than the aggressive dog?

I've done two different threads to get different responses - some people will relate to one and not the other. Both are an issue.

I am currently 7 months into my maternity leave and starting to think about childcare for my son.

The time to start thinking about childcare was a lot, lot earlier than now 😂

But on a serious note, I wouldn’t be leaving my baby with anyone who drank a lot of alcohol. No chance.

I’m guessing he’s been like this a long time though hence why I’m surprised you hadn’t started thinking about childcare many, many months ago because you must have know that using the in-laws wasn’t an option?

I think either issue would be a hard no from me.

Yes I would get a move on and find nursery now tbh they often have waiting lists