my 10 year old ds was so upset last night. She really cried which she rarely does, she seems to hold everything in and then breaks down. She shares a room with ds5 She desperately wants her own space but we don’t have an extra room for her. She shouts at ds when he come into the room. She seems so angry. Then I get annoyed cos she’s shouting at him.She said she wants time alone and yet when she is in the room alone she feels lonely 🥲 She has been quite withdrawn on and off. She is desperate for a pet but we don’t have a garden. Not sure I can cope with a hamster 🙈 She has friends at school but I’m not convinced about any of the friendships being great for her. Now her friend has moved house and has her own room, ds feels she’s the ‘only one’ sharing- obvs I said she isn’t. Sometimes they take the mick and tease a bit, she is very sensitive to this. I have tried to give her stratagies to manage but she finds it hard to stand up for herself. She told me that she doesn’t talk much at school (which I am aware of)- she said she ‘loses her words’ and doesn’t contribute much in class. We had parents evening and they said her work was great and she is doing well academically. She loves skateboarding and goes once a week, swimming and football.
she has also started to worry about secondary school and whether she will go to same one as her friends, which may not happen. We are applying for a grammar school just to try , as the schools near us aren’t great.
I’m struggling a bit myself in general, don’t live near family. Feel exhausted with the kids and general routine etc. Just so worried that if she doesn’t manage to get her self esteem up she will find secondary a massive challenge.
she also said that’s she just doesn’t know ‘what to do’. I asked what she meant, she said at school playtime she just follows her friends around as not sure what to do.
I know some of it maybe hormones but feel maybe it’s more? I feel I’m not doing my best as a Mum as I’m exhausted and struggling myself.
if anyone has any advice I would appreciate it. Sorry for huge ramble at 5am . Thank you