I am at my wit's end and don't know what to do.
Since DD turned 3 in March she and DH have butted heads over everything. A week before her birthday she had COVID, then before returning to nursery we were informed it had been suspended from opening by OFSTED. This went on for sixteen weeks without an alternative placement. We later found out the reason for it closing was due to a member of staff having her kids removed by social services as there was proof of abuse, and there was a possibility children at nursery could've been at risk also. We welcomed a new baby at the beginning of October and my DH had just come out of hospital after suffering a seizure while riding his bike after 17 years of being clear of them which saw him have multiple ones at the roadside and had to be ventilated. It was thought to be down to shunt malfunction as he has water on the brain and had to have a programmable VP shunt in place of his old one. So DD has been without her dad for 10 days and she has tonsillitis now and is refusing medicine from either of us.
I can appreciate there's lots going on for the both of them but I can't cope with the endless bickering that goes on day in and day out. I'm pulling my hair out. I just feel like packing up and taking DD with me. On the verge of desperate here.