Struggling with Breastfeeing as some days feels constant

[El13]

I am a new mum my little boy is 9 weeks old, I’m ebf and occasionally expressing to give a bottle if I am struggling.
he is half tongue tied but I was told this doesn’t effect his latch.
some days feel impossible, he constantly wants to feed. I try express a bottle but it doesn’t always work. He struggles sometimes with his latch constantly dropping on and off causing him to become frustrated and cry most of the day

does it ever get easier? Some days I want to stop bf because I’m so overwhelmed but he is thriving and I couldn’t bring myself to do this.
I’m unsure when to pump so there is enough milk for him and some to store.
I have also considered occasional offering a bottle of formula but last time I did this he vomited everything back up (powdered formula).
I hate seeing him so distressing on the breast, he will settle after an expressed bottle but sometimes this isn’t an option.
I just feel stuck, I feel like we can’t leave the house as some days he cluster feeds over 20 times a day.
if anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it.
thanks xx

I’d revisit the ‘tongue tie not an issue’ thing. Although at 9 weeks it may be a bit late to be revised anyway. I had two with fairly minor tongue ties and not great latches, first wasn’t revised til 10wks and made little difference, second was more like 2wks and improved things with her. But you can do a lot for a not great latch to improve milk tranfer. Have you looked at ‘flipple technique’ ‘exaggerated latch’ etc? If not do, watch videos, and really focus on spot on positioning and attachment. Also, always break the latch and start again when it’s not good. You feel bad but you’re helping baby learn good technique so that they become more efficient and quicker. Hang in there - have you tried a bf group for peer support?

It might be worth getting a second opinion on the tongue tie if he’s struggling to stay latched. He might not be feeding efficiently.
Also in the early days they do feed a lot. Some is growth spurts so they have to feed more to stimulate your milk production. It is hard work and I feel for you. I would still try and get out and about a little even for your own sanity. It doesn’t need to be anywhere adventurous, maybe to a sympathetic friend for a cup of tea, or a friendly mum and baby group.
Forget the housework for now too. Rest and good food is important for you just now.
It will pass. Xx

I went private and got tongue tie cut. I believe it made a big difference ,(at9 weeks).
Ask your health visiting team to refer you to a feeding specialist for help.
Do you have slow flow bottles and have you looked up paced feeding for the bottle feed vomiting issue?
Lastly, if you manage to get formula to work don't feel you have to persevere with pumping or even breastfeeding. Most studies showing breastfeeding as better are deeply flawed and show correlation not causation. Yes it is marginally better but your wellbeing will have a bigger impact on your baby than the milk they have. Especially as you've stuck with it for this long.