Burnt out

[Jenny346]

I have 3 children . A 9 year old, a 3 year old and a baby. I have had enough of being a mum. My 9 year old has attitude, my 3 year old tantrums every day and wakes continuously in the night and well the baby is a baby. I spend all my time with these kids, I go bed early because if I don't I don't get any sleep. I don't go out anywhere because it's hard work. Im not interested in anything any more, can't even answer a simple question on what is my favourite colour, there is nothing left in me. I'm struggling to keep my cool. I just don't know how this will ever change.

Have you told the doctor? Would you consider anti depression medication?

Hi. That sounds tough. Do you have a partner? Was the baby planned? Do you have family around you?

No I haven't cos just don't feel like anyone will help. Not sure on medication. I do t know what to think about anything ?

I take my hat off to you for coping with 3, I'm knackered with 2! Do you have anyone who could look after the kids while you do something for you? My dh had the kids this morning while I went to a clothes sale then Costa with a friend and I came home feeling revived. I also go running twice a week, it's something for me, gets me out of the house and is great for mental health. Dh is my only childcare so it's tough but we make it work. I also do the same for him and he sometimes goes swimming. I hope things improve soon

Yeah I have a husband, baby number 3 wasn't planned. I have family around me but they seem to make things worse, not easier with the kids.

9yo is at school. Is 3yo at nursery? If not, they doon will be. Then you get a few hours just you and baby.

You got this.

Hi OP.
I second the idea of getting anti depressants.
I also wonder if you'd consider sleep training your three y.o.

The book by Richard Ferber is excellent.

9yr old is at school yes?
Pit 3 yo to nursery
Use family to cover baby a few times but to help you you need your partner to take annual leave immediately and you need some sleep.

I'm in the same boat as you OP so I can sympathise. I have an 8.5 year old, 4 year old and 14 month old.
The attitude from my 8 year old is HUGE and right now is making things pretty tough around the house. I am at a loss with what to do sometimes.
I also work two days a week in a professional job, which requires more work to be completed at home on my days off to keep my head above water.. it's exhausting!

I'm sorry you are feeling so burnt out. I go through periods of feeling the same. Even the smallest task can make me feel so overwhelmed. No advice really. The only thing that helps me to feel slightly better is by telling myself of course I feel like this!
My 4 year still wakes regularly through the night my baby has had a good night if he has only woken up 4 times thought the night!
Sleep deprivation is such a game changer on your mood I find. I also then don't eat properly through the day as I binge on sugar, so just eat biscuits and no meals, which isn't great for mood either!..

Like you I find the stretch to meet the different needs of all three very demanding. Emotional 8 year old. Simple but tantruming 4 year old and then bump his head on everything and turn out every cupboard 14 month old. And you have to deal with all of those needs at the same time! It is HARD.

Although getting out is tough, I find once I'm out and in a large open space so the kids can run makes everything feel much better!

Good luck OP. Before you know it, we will be begging our kids to spend some time with us (or so I keep telling myself)

How old is the baby?

Does DH help or hinder? Does he ever have the kids by himself when he's not at work?

The baby is 5 months old. He has the kids if I nip to the shop, but as I say I'm interested in nothing anymore so there is nothing to go and do on my own. X

I have 3 children 2,5 and 9 and I’m feeling the same
beyond wondering why I’ve done this to myself
they fight , constantly calling mummy all the time
I hate taking them out as seems a waste of time !!
just hope it gets better
Message me if u want to chat