Just looking a bit of advice. I have dd(8) ds(5) and dd(2). We settled away from my family (think an hour on plane or 8 hour drive and ferry) so now with the 3 kids we only go to my home town once a year (but my parents visit once or twice too).
Last November my best friend back home had a baby and I took both my dd's back for a long weekend. DS didn't want to go and was happy to have a daddy weekend. It was great as bonfire night and my older dd had never seen a big firework display.
This year my ds has asked to go for the weekend as his birthday treat in Jan, he wants to have a sleepover at my dad's (he has a jacuzzi and a puppy lol) and my dad is happy to pay, it's about £100 but that would be a big expense for us with Christmas coming up too. We will be back for his actual birthday.
I'd love to do this, with 3 children and him the middle child he often gets overlooked, 2year old is understandably taking a lot of time and dd1 has had lots of special days out etc over the years. However dd1 is upset and says its not fair as ds had the chance to go last year and turned it down so she should get the choice this year.
For context we did go back home for a fortnight as a family over the summer, my mum is just back from a weekend visit and my dad is coming for Christmas so it's not like she hasn't seen them recently.
I'm feeling guilty about leaving both the girls (I work full time) and her reaction is just making it worse, or should I just give ds the weekend he wants and dd1 will have to accept it.