I have a little girl who is 17 months and to say she is attached to me is the bare minimum and in normal circumstances I would get it, I understand that children can become attached to their primary care giver and are more likely to throw 'tantrums' because its a safe environment for them to do so. But i feel like I'm becoming more of a hindrance now than supporting because if I leave its full on melt down (usually to the point of being sick shes cried that much) yet I can feel myself getting frustrated that I have no sense of freedom even just going and getting a coffee can be a battle.
On the occasions where I am not around and shes been redirected by who ever she is with 1, it's a damn miracle 2, as SOON as i walk back in she will go into full on melt down mode and its even become difficult for me to help her regulate how she is feeling.
If i am in the room, she has to be on me, climbing, having me walk in circles with her as she is still not able to walk independently.
I feel like if I'm not around she will eventually get over me leaving and is very happy to play independently and receive love and attention from whom ever she is will but as soon as I come back she immediately reattaches and its become overwhelming.
I encourage her to self play and play with toys with me but she isn't interested and I'm at a loss.
Sorry for the long post I hope it makes sense, thank you in advance for any advice 😊