Ds is a school refuser, always has been since he started in reception. It has never ever got better and he is now in year 5. Every day is a battle to get him to school as he refuses to get up or to get dressed, he cries most mornings and is just generally in a foul mood. I’ve had lots of contact with the school over it and they have been very supportive but it just doesn’t change anything. He hates everything about school.
Today he was in a foul mood again and at the school gates he threw his bag on the floor because I wouldn’t give him a day off. After school the mood had continued and he was shouting at me and being rude. At home he told me to shut up and told me he isn’t going to school tomorrow. He was disciplined for this. I parent him alone and his father has no involvement. I have single parent friends who send their kids to the father when they are behaving badly but I don’t have that option and feel quite jealous that I don’t get a break or space from him as dealing with this every day is very hard. I posted on another group about wishing I had that option and was told I was wrong for wishing I could send him to his fathers for him to deal with him because it’s “passing the Buck” it’s his father?! And that it’s damaging to children and unfair on the other parent (who literally does nothing.) Yet every single parent I know does this when their children are playing up (mainly older teens) maybe my view is clouded because I’ve never got a break from him so I don’t know what it’s like to look forward to child free weekends where I don’t have to deal with this ( the mood continues on the weekends especially Sunday when he knows he has to go back to school and she spends all weekend saying he doesn’t want to go to school) so am I bad for wishing I had this option? It would give us both time out and I am fed up of dealing with this every single day.