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Took my eyes off her for two seconds…

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anonqrtb · 09/11/2023 18:53

And she was walking around with a knife.

DD is only 13 months and she found a knife I didn’t know was there in a drawer. I saw her pulling out shoelaces, a face mask and then looked down to read a text from my sister - to which my DP says why has she got a knife. And sure enough she’s walking around holding a kitchen knife (luckily by the handle). DP took it off her before anything awful could happen

But I just cannot believe it. I keep thinking about what could have happened due to my lack of attention. Please can everyone tell me how awful am I because I really deserve it, my poor baby girl

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Leo227 · 09/11/2023 18:55

can I suggest you get child locks on your doors and drawers and do any other necessary baby proofing..as you know one trip over and it could have been a terrible result.

1992H · 09/11/2023 18:57

You could have a thousand drawers, 999 of them totally safe and they’d find the 1 that was a risk. They’re like bloodhounds for sniffing things out.

be thankful she’s okay, take it as a learning curve to add child locks or sort every accessible
area to being child safe and don’t beat yourself up too much. You’re human, you didn’t know it was in there, and no harm has come of it.

MakeTeaNotLove · 09/11/2023 18:59

But I just cannot believe it. I keep thinking about what could have happened due to my lack of attention.
Your DH was in the room as well. You were busy. WTF was his excuse for not taking over watching the child?

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MakeTeaNotLove · 09/11/2023 19:00

In fact, given that his response was "why has she got a knife" (wasting time demanding you sort it while implying it's somehow your fault) instead of jumping up to sort it out then telling you "omg look what she got!" I suspect he just puts this stuff all on you?

luckbealadytonight · 09/11/2023 19:01

Obviously it's scary when stuff like that happens, but as pp said they are literally bloodhounds for danger.

All you can do is get child locks and try and make sure it doesn't happen again. No harm done.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 09/11/2023 19:03

Children are really, really good at finding the chinks in your safety measures - and every time you think you have thought of every possible way they could hurt themselves, the inventive little darlings come up with something you would ever even have dreamt of!

When ds1 was about 4.5 and ds2 was about 2.5, ds1 told ds2 to climb out of an upstairs window, to retrieve ds1’s broken train from the bin. We had child proofed extensively downstairs, but didn’t imagine we’d need to stop one of our sons sending the other one out of dh’s office window. Luckily we heard ds2 trying to open the window, and stopped him before he got it open.

I think that most parents have a near miss or two - you just have to a) forgive yourself and b) use it as a prompt to check the places she can reach now, and do some more child proofing.

Rest assured, @anonqrtb, you are not a terrible mother - you are human, and we all make mistakes.

Pinkpinkplonk · 09/11/2023 19:03

Because babies are little terrors! And these things happen! But nothing did, learn from it, and move on. Don’t beat yourself up. You can’t protect them from absolutely everything unfortunately

anonqrtb · 09/11/2023 19:04

Thank you everyone, I do have child locks on all the drawers usually I just let her ruffle through this one as I was there and never knew there was a knife in there! It’s just an odds and sods drawer so a knife certainly didn’t belong in there.

DP was sorting his car insurance out on his phone - it was said it a more shocked/ confused as to how or why she has it - not in an accusatory way if that makes sense.

I just can’t believe it, she’s tucked up safely in bed now and I’m just replaying it in my head

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EarringsandLipstick · 09/11/2023 19:08

Please can everyone tell me how awful am I because I really deserve it, my poor baby girl

What's going on with these threads recently? Mothers self-flagellating over normal child behaviour.

Yes, she got a knife. You / DP spotted it quickly & removed it. A moment of 'oh Christ' & you move on.

Even with PFB I wasn't beating myself up over these things.

You aren't awful. Stuff happens. Hopefully nothing too serious but there's no need to have such an over-reaction

sipsqueak · 09/11/2023 19:11

OP I really feel for you. I spent my first 2 years of motherhood worrying about freak accidents and re-playing near misses in my head. We learn from these experiences. Don't beat yourself up.

WineAndFireside · 09/11/2023 19:12

Don't beat yourself up OP. All three of mine had near misses at that stage - they're a liability. Learn from it, but let it go.

Terfosaurus · 09/11/2023 19:24

DS1 managed to get the bathroom cleaning stuff off a shelf, open the 'child proof' cap and drink a mouthful.

DS2 got in the fridge and ate half a raw sausage. Clearly I didn't learn!

DC1888 · 09/11/2023 19:29

WineAndFireside · 09/11/2023 19:12

Don't beat yourself up OP. All three of mine had near misses at that stage - they're a liability. Learn from it, but let it go.

100% this.

I think everyone has a near miss when young (or even older). I certainly did...went down a hill too fast on my bike..didn't have enough time to use brakes, and somehow went right across a busy road and into a hedge without any impact. Just lucky enough to get that wake up call to be more careful.

No harm done OP. Just take it as a valuable lesson.

PuttingDownRoots · 09/11/2023 19:34

With my first, I could leave her in a room. With a chainsaw, an open fire, a machete and some acid and she wouldn't touch any of it (I didn't obviously do it!)

DD2 wax a little horror. She crawled at 5 months, and could climb and pull up soon after. She could find anything and open everything. She escaped out of the living room window one time but moving toys to create a step to get up there.

Shes 10 now and still has no sense of self preservation but oddly has never actually injured herself.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 09/11/2023 19:41

Another one - I nipped upstairs to the loo, leaving a just-crawling ds1 in the childproofed dining room and kitchen. As I was on the loo, I heard a baby crying outside - I assumed the neighbours had a baby visiting - but when I got downstairs I found ds1 stuck half in, half out of the cat flap. His feet couldn’t touch the floor in the kitchen and he couldn’t touch the ground outside! I had to open the door very carefully, and basically deliver him, through the cat flap.

He also ate tortilla chips out of the bin. He was right in the worst of the terrible twos, and having had a massive 90 minute tantrum the night before, he was heading into 45 minutes of his next tantrum, and it wasn’t 8am yet. I was on the phone to dh, sobbing that I couldn’t cope - when it went quiet. Quiet, with a toddler, is always a danger sign. I hung up, and found ds1 at the bin, eating the left over tortilla chips dh and I hadn’t eaten the night before, and had thrown away.

But that wasn’t the worst part - I looked at him, and I knew that, if I took him away from his delicious bin-snack, he would start tantrumming again, and I simply could not face it (I was heavily pregnant with ds2 at the time), so I let him carry on eating. When he’d had enough, and wandered off, I emptied the bin, and found somewhere childproof to keep it from then on. But whenever someone says they must be the worst mum in the world, I trot this story out, to show them they definitely aren’t.

Oh, and ds1 survived utterly unscathed, and is now nearly 30, has a degree, a good job, a lovely wife and a daughter, so even my terrible parenting didn’t damage him irreparably.

plumtreebroke · 09/11/2023 19:45

Knifes should be high up so small children can't reach them. Don't understand how they were within reach of a very small child.

CameleonAreFightingBack · 09/11/2023 19:55

I’m going to say, this was one if those moments when nothing happened but you know or think it could have.
And we’ve ALL had those moments @anonqrtb

WineAndFireside · 09/11/2023 19:56

plumtreebroke · 09/11/2023 19:45

Knifes should be high up so small children can't reach them. Don't understand how they were within reach of a very small child.

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mathanxiety · 09/11/2023 20:07

Why did your DP ask you why she had the knife? Does he think you're the default parent 24/7?

mathanxiety · 09/11/2023 20:16

@anonqrtb
These things happen. If there's a knife, they'll find it. If there's a bookcase to climb while you're sneezing, they'll climb it. If there's a tube of toothpaste to squeeze out and eat...
You get my drift.

I once locked my own mother into her bedroom and had a merry old time wreaking havoc around the house. She had to yell out to a passing neighbour to climb over the back gate and then in through the kitchen window to find me wherever I was, find the bedroom key, and spring her from captivity.

Notquitegrownup2 · 09/11/2023 20:25

There was a great thread a while back on here where a baby in a walker got hold of a knife and the mnetter turned round to see a bare chested chortling baby hurtling across the kitchen knife aloft in full 'attack' mode heading straight for her! Would have taken some explaining in A n E!

Good job your dp spotted her. As others have said, don't beat yourself up. Check the drawers again and pour yourself a drink. It gets easier once they are 18!

Parapapampam · 09/11/2023 20:39

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius I love that you let him keep eating 😂

Caledoniablue · 09/11/2023 21:11

plumtreebroke · 09/11/2023 19:45

Knifes should be high up so small children can't reach them. Don't understand how they were within reach of a very small child.

Didn't you read the OP? She didn't know it was there. Easy mistake. We've all done it!

Mumaway · 09/11/2023 21:20

DD1 'My Love Lemonade! DD2 love it too!'. The little bastards aged 3 and 18m had stacked a chair on a table, then a toybox on that, then climbed up to the top of some loose wall shelves to drink my wine. They are so inventive in easy to kill themselves you can't anticipate everything, and you already said you had no idea the knife was in there. Don't beat yourself up.
And consider leaving one cupboard unlocked and full of things they can root through and pull out. Tupperware good for this

haribosmarties · 09/11/2023 21:31

This happens. Then you learn from it and do better.
with my first I stupidly left a glass fruit bowl on the coffee table... my back was turned a few mins.. he smashed the fruit bowl and ate a piece of the glass. Covered in blood. Took him to A&E and luckily he was completely fine apart from a small cut in his mouth.
my second found a packet of paracetamol that I had actually put up in a really high cupboard and still to this day I do not know how she got up there.. luckily I saw her with the packet and she'd popped some out but not taken any.. I found a new place to store medication safely after that...
Just saying to you these things happen to most parents at some point and you feel like the worst mother in the world.
But in reality you are just one of the majority of decent mothers who made a mistake about something one time.
Your child is fine. They weren't unattended. You quickly rectified the situation.