I have a 7 year old SS from previous relationship which broke down 6 years ago. SS calls me dad and does not know any different. He is no longer wanting to visit my house and is opting to come when there are gifts/events being held, which is not feasible long term. When he does come he is rude and disrespectful to us all. I make as much effort as possible to encourage him to come as does DW Talking to ex does not work as there is no encouragement from her side and I am constantly getting nasty phone calls/texts from her.
I don’t know whether this is something I should continue to work on like I have been doing for the past 2 and a half years however there are no improvements. This is now having an impact on my family life with my DW and DD (9 months). I want to be there for him but I don’t know what to do.