Option A or option B?

[rob38]

My ex-wife lied about me to gain custody of my children. My 13 year old son has always acted out in her care, and seems at the moment to have gone completely off the rails. I know that things are a lot better/normal with his behavior when he is in my care.

Should I A,

Go back to court to try and gain custody of him, which will be time consuming and very traumatic, but may resolve the issue

Or B,

Let things play out and hope that his behavioral issues resolve even though given the long history of him displaying difficult behavior in her care, they likely wont.

Social Services are currently involved, and have been involved in the past. In the last two school months he has received a detention almost every day and has been suspended 6 times. I have got him support through Camhs.

Your post doesn’t and could never give the full details of the situation so no one here is going to have the full details so won’t be able to advise you properly.

At 13 the judge will be considering what your son wants. What does he want?

In 5 years time if what ever plan you pick doesn't work which plan would you be kicking yourself more for choosing?

It is hard to say without knowing the intricacies of what going back to court would involve for you and your family but when I'm doing things that are active decisions rather than hoping the universe sorts itself out in feel less guilt ridden even if the end result is the same. I would look in proactive solutions in the hope your contribution can make a difference.

Best of luck.