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Snow34 · 08/11/2023 10:28

My other half goes to work at 8.30 , he comes back at 6.45ish even though he's meant to Finnish at 5. He works from my mums house, he's remote. He doesn't help get the kids ready in the morning for school, they aren't easy and are late every day, he rarely does the kitchen, there is 6 of us so you can only imagine how much tidying/cleaning is needed and it's like he's just leaving me to do everything, including putting the kids to bed and then moans if he can't find any clean socks on the odd occasion. I'm so busy but he doesn't get it. He seems to think because I'm the mum, my job is kids, house , appointments , food shop, etc. I work 2 days a week but I have one child waiting an ASD assessment and another on a reduced time table at school so I'm back and forth a lot doing school runs in amongst everything else. I'm curious to know what your other half's do in terms of kids/school/house work etc.

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BettyBoobles · 08/11/2023 10:33

Pretty much the same as you. It's hard but I can't see anything changing so I'm trying not to be resentful. I also work 2 days.

Snow34 · 08/11/2023 10:40

It feels very old school. I thought nowadays more couples work together. I wasn't to bad doing most things until I had my 4th child but then it became a bit much to do everything and keep on top of it all

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ginre · 08/11/2023 12:01

DH pulls his weight when he's at home even though he works ft and I'm a sahm. He gets both DCs up in the morning and gets DC1 ready for school (though she can dress herself, he brushes her teeth and gets breakfast ready). He dresses DC2 and gives her breakfast (toddler so needs supervision). I get myself ready while he does this and he drops DC1 at school before walking to work. I look after DC2 all day and pick up DC1 from school and cook dinner, feed DC2 then he's home at 5.30pm and we eat together and each of us takes turns playing with DCs, helping with homework and cleaning up the kitchen. We take turns with each DC so they get some individual attention. One of us does bath/bed for one DC each as DC1 goes to bed a bit later than DC2.

At weekends he's around all day and we both look after the DC together doing family trips out. So he does a lot, but I am with DC2 all day and I look after both DCs during school holidays during the day. We are done at 2 DC, we like being able to focus on one child at a time!

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Snow34 · 08/11/2023 22:30

It sounds like you work really well together :-)

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