Should I leave my 9 month old with father for 2/3 nights?

[Zelleb]

I am wanting to go away for a city break for 2 to 3 nights with friend however I feel terribly guilty leaving my 9 month old baby. Baby would be staying in his own home with his father so other than me not being there, everything else would be normal to him. Should I go away or stay with my baby? It's hard to decide when you feel guilty for leaving them so young.

If you are the main carer then I would say he’s too young. He has no concept of time and as far as he’s concerned you will have just disappeared triggering a great deal of abandonment fear. He may well look ‘resilient’ but inside him there will be stress and anxiety.
If caring for him is 50/50 with his father then that will lessen the stress of you not being around.

So father and I live together in same house. As he works and I'm on mat leave, I am main carer but his dad is here every day/night, does feeds and takes his turn when he can. I have left them twice for a good few hours at a time and they were fine but I feel guilty leaving for a couple nights. But at the same time I feel I need a little break away to be myself again (I know that sounds very selfish :/ but motherhood can be hard).

If course you can leave your child for 2-3 nights; he's with his dad who he knows and loves with. Go and have a lovely time. Your baby will be absolutely fine.

I had to leave the country for work for eight nights when mine was ten months. I hated it but he was fine with his dad and we have a great relationship.

Just go and enjoy. Let them have some boy time.

Of course you can
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Yep go the baby will be fine and you will have a nice break

Baby will be absolutely fine, that's his parent too. Do it.

No need to feel guilty for simply being human and needing a break.

Your baby will be absolutely fine. It's about how you feel. If you will be OK then do it! Your baby will be with a usual primary care giver they won't be distressed. That's their father!!
It's nice to have a break sometimes. I did with both of mine and it did them absolutely no harm.. in fact strengthened their bond with their dad.

Thank you all for ur comments. This is what I needed to hear, I feel so bad leaving him but also really need this for my own sanity.

I left dc at 4 months for 2 nights with his father. He was fine.

I had to go abroad for 2 weeks when my baby was 7 months. No harm done. She was fine and well cared for of course.

Totally fine in my opinion. They baby will be with their dad. We both left our daughter with my parents for 3 nights when she was 10 months old, did her no harm at all!