Struggling with evenings

[Snowdrop89]

I do a full time, stressful, responsible job. 3 young kids 2, 5 and 10. I finish work for the day about 17:30/45 then move straight to making dinner, doing nursery bags for tomorrow, other house stuff. I’m completely and utterly exhausted and just want to cry. I feel this intense need to take some care of myself or for someone to care for me a bit. Every second of every waking hour is spent servicing someone else & I’m exhausted and feel like I can’t do it anymore. Not sure why I’m posting, just so so so tired & not coping…

That’s tiring, no wonder you are feeling this way. You haven’t mentioned a partner- do they help out?

is there anything you can cut out, like cook over the weekend and do quick meals on weekdays?

get the kids to help out more?

sorry sometimes it’s not what you want to hear - I’m sure you have thought of these things too but worth it even if you have one evening off. It might be worth it

I have a husband but all the mental load is with me. I batch cook at the weekend so that we have 2-3 meals on weeknights already made. Then simple meals the other nights. I spent all weekend doing laundry, cooking, tidying etc & I’m just shattered & it’s only Monday ;( @Tigerteal

Solidarity I only have two kids, 2 and 4 and recently just felt total burn out exhaustion. It’s relentless truly. I don’t know the answer, we’ve started making some smarter choices like get food shop delivered etc but tbh I feel like I need proper hands on help. Have a very supportive husband too so interested to read replies. I did recently listen to hunt gather parent and I’ve been trying to get kids to help waaaay more than I ever have. Helps break it up and make them a wee bit responsible within reason.

but makes it feel less like your doing it all whilst everyone else is sat down chilling. Try to carve out some time for yourself, sure husband can manage an hour here and there without you. Take a book to a cafe, go for a swim. Anything that gives you 30 minutes peace. I’ve really forced myself to do it and it does make a huge difference x

also take turns doing things. One night each at bedtime and alternate, get him to batch cook some weekends. All the little breaks add up xx

Clearly your partner needs to step up. You need to

Your DH needs to do more. Don't let him off the hook!

Are you getting enough sleep?