How often do your parents see your LO?

[Brooke87]

Hello,

Just curious as to how often your parents visit your child?

My LO is 15 months. My husbands parents are only 5 minutes away from us so he sees them regularly and my MIL comes to our house to look after him once a week to help with when we are working.

My parents are split up. They both live around half an hours drive away. I'd say they have probably seen my son maybe 10 times in his life each.

When he was newborn they used to regularly ask about him and want to see him and now it's rare they see him or ask about him. Whereas my MIL messages every day almost to check if my son is okay. Just little questions like how he's got on at nursery? If he's had a doctors appointment she will ask how it's gone. She will ask if he's okay when he's sick or generally just want to know if he's had a nice day.

Am I expecting too much to think that my parents should be more interested in my son like my MIL is?

They even forgot it was his first day at nursery until they saw a picture I posted...

I find it tricky to understand if I'm asking too much as I know if I needed them to look after him they would but that isn't the same as them just wanting to come and see him and spend time with him. My mum has looked after him twice since he was born. My dad never has.

It's frustrating me and I'm at the point of not asking them to come round etc as if they don't make the effort it is their loss not mine as I get to spend every day with my son watching him grow.

If you've got this far then thanks so much for reading. I'd love to know what your parents involvement is with your children? 😁

My mum asks every day how my little one is, MIL could go 1-2 weeks without asking then be on the phone to DH for half an hour before asking. I find MIL strange.

Half an hour is no time, my mums maybe 20 min away and visits/ we visit her at least once a week. She also helps out with nursery runs when needed.

Is there a reason you don’t visit them?

My parents live 40 mins away. They watch DD 3 days per fortnight for me to work (used to do 5 days per fortnight), in addition to this I will often visit their house on my days off. My mother asks how DD is every day and DD is very attached to them.

MIL looks after DD once per week and as she lives nearer will often come out for the day with us - weekends and bank hols. She doesn't tend to ask so much in-between but does if she knows she's been ill etc.

My parents at least 3 times a week.

In-laws 1/2 times a week

When they were babies, probably weekly or thereabouts.

now they’re at school and have activities etc probably more like monthly. My side live 5 mins away, DH side are an hour away.

My family live close so my DM sees them at least once a week and at some points it has been literally 5 days a week.

DH family live about 3-4 hours away (including a ferry) so we see them at least once a year. However we FaceTime at least once a week.

My dad once a week and every one else has seen her about 3/4 times in her life (11 months) mil even had to double check with us when her birthday is!
They where a little more interested with my eldest but that soon stopped at about 2.

I like you expected a bit more interest and it does make me a little sad for them at times. But theyre the ones missing out. Ive stopped making effort to ask them round/send pics now to.

My parents live 30 minutes away. They see her typically 1-2 a week on my day off and once at the weekend but some weeks we don't see them at all.

My in-laws see her probably every 4-8 weeks but for 3-7 days at a time as they live 250 miles away

This summer we managed a weeks holiday away with both of them (not at the same time!)

My parents love round the corner so pop round frequently. They generally come when DH isn't around! They are both retired. My dad plays a sport that keeps them both busy in summer, but in winter we are them several times a week for short visits.

My MIL is deceased. She used to come 3 or 4 times a year. Didn't seem much intersted in any but the eldest when she did visit, shes not keen on babies/toddlers. FIL (they were divorced) comes maybe every other month, but a bit more frequently during his summer holidays - again, he's more comfortable with eldest. He's retired now, I imagine we might see him a bit more often as the children grow up. My DH says he was a
Great dad to an older child, but just doesn't get little children.