Feeling like DD doesn’t like me

[Gardenclems]

I'm fully prepared to be told I’m being ridiculous with this but I feel like my 4 year old doesn’t like me. She never chooses with sit by me or do something with me if there’s her dad or another family member to choose from.

I think a part of it is my DH doesn’t like to discipline her if it leads to whining or a tantrum. For example we’ll tell her she needs to colour or play with her toys because we’ve had a day out with her and want to chill for 10 minutes. She’ll whine and daddy goes to play with her. Where as if it’s just me I’ll say I’m having a cuppa and she’ll complain for a bit then go play. Obviously grandparents let her get away with murder.

Part of me just thinks maybe I’m a shit parent and my husband and dd would be better off if I moved out

So why don’t you sit and play with her- you default to a cuppa and saying no and then want her to want to be with you

I’m talking about when we’ve spent all day on a day out with her so they want to sit down for ten mins for a drink. DH complains that she wants attention 24/7 and won’t play by herself, which I agree with. I think it’s important for her to be able to entertain herself for a bit. DH gives into the whining rather than setting a boundary

It’s one example. Another would be we agree that she should have table manners, but only I enforce the table manners consistently. So I’m the only parent enforcing rules