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Family Conflict

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Goingoutofmymind90 · 01/11/2023 07:26

I’m sorry this might be long but I’m looking for some advice.
I've been with my partner 3 years and have a 2 year old. My partners side of the family are very bitchy behind everyone backs. We were out for a meal and after a while my 2 year old was getting restless and bored to the point where he was kicking of while I was trying to finish my meal. Everyone else had already finished there meal as I was trying to deal with my 2 year old while trying to eat. In the end nothing I did distracted my 2 year old so I was getting stressed that no one included my partner were willing to help. So I took my 2 year old and started walking round the restaurant to calm him down. When I came back the atmosphere had changed and no one was speaking to me. I then find out that in the family group chat they had all been slagging me of including my partner saying I ruined the evening meal.
I haven’t said anything because how can they say I ruined it when they were not willing to help calm him down and let me eat my meal in peace. No one is talking to me and do you know there is people in this family who have done a lot worse but can do nothing wrong but I get stressed because my son is getting bored and no one is willing to help and I’m the one in the wrong. My partner family are known to slag everyone of, they are always talking about someone. They think they are so perfect but far from it. When I nearly died during childbirth and went through a tough mental health battle, his mum was slagging me of then telling me to get over it. I just don’t know what to do anymore because I’m not the one to keep my mouth shut but don’t want my son picking up on anything either as it’s not fair on him.
What would you do? Any advice?

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Labradoodlie · 01/11/2023 07:36

I’d have a serious chat with your partner about why he behaved so abysmally, first.

The answer might just be that they are all a bunch of arseholes.

ConflictedCheetah · 01/11/2023 07:52

Firstly stop meeting up with his family. Just don't bother with them.

Secondly you need to talk to your DH about why he's completely useless and doesn't parent his child (note, not 'help' you, just parent his child who is equally his responsibility)and why he doesn't defend you and instead joins in with his awful family. He sounds dreadful.

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