To go away for a night whilst DD had chickenpox?

[Liverpoolgirl50]

We have a 15mo DD who came out in chickenpox spots today. This follows a hellish 3 weeks of hand, foot and mouth, a stomach bug and a horrid cold.

I’m supposed to be going to a concert on Tuesday with friends and staying over, it’s a 3 hour drive from home and I’d go midday Tues and be back by midday Weds. It’s something that’s been planned for over a year and I was really looking forward to, I haven’t had an overnight stay with friends since before DD was born.

DH is happy to stay at home and look after her etc but the mum guilt is eating me up. Should I stay home? Am I a crap mum for even considering going whilst she’s unwell? What would you do?

I would go if everything goes okay between now and Tuesday. She's with her Dad and will probably be feeling so much better by Tuesday anyway.

Obviously if she's very unwell then consider cancelling but if she's just a bit itchy and miserable then go, she will be fine.

Wait and see how she is by Tuesday, she might be over the worst of it or she might just be starting the crusty stage where they are up all night with the itching.

I'd go. DC has just had it and wasn't very ill at all really, just 24 hours of grumpiness. You've had it planned for a year, it would be a shame to miss it. Most men wouldn't even think twice about going or what anyone else thought of it.

MN is full of people who say they would never leave their DC under any circumstances so I'm not sure how balanced a view you'll get here...

If she's poorly and upset I'd be inclined to stay home just as although for me DH would be more than capable I'd want to be with her. However to be honest the worst will have probably passed by then, see how it goes. We had 2 very unsettled nights and me and DH needed to tag team as oat baths, cuddles, calpol and regular cream was essential to get them settled. After that it was more boring waiting for them to scab!

When my Ds had chicken pox he was so much happier once spots came out .

I had it as an adult and felt lousy til spot’s came out then was fine ..

but all different she may be fine by Tuesday

If you were both going I'd hesitate, but she's going to be with her dad she'll be fine, go and enjoy yourself

Even if she us up all night with the itching it doesn't need two of you. Piriton is DP's friend here (and virasoothe).

Thanks everyone 💖 I will take the wait and see approach! We may well be over this and onto the next illness by then 🤣

I wouldn’t be making a decision now. DC2 was 2.5 when they had it and were really quite poorly. Went rapidly downhill at one stage, 111 wanted to call an ambulance.

DC1 on the other hand was fine except for a lot of spots and a bit scratchy. Would have happily left them.

Go but if there is any chance a friend might be pregnant make sure you shower and put fresh clothes on after saying goodbye to dc.

Oh goodness, go! This is why children are designed with two parents.

Just wanted to say the chicken pox was pretty much gone by Tuesday - I went away and had the BEST time and I don't think my DD even realised I was gone 😂thanks everyone.