So angry at 11yr old ds,

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I am due to give birth In 10 days so hormones may be playing a part I don't know.

I have pram set up with raincover over so it doesn't get dusty. Not a cheap pram either.

Ds was sat next to pram watching ipad and he's been fiddling with raincover he's stuck his fingers through the small air holes making a larger hole.

I've told him he can pay for a replacement using his pocket money for the next 4 weeks.
I told him to go away , to his bedroom and he said f*ck you and stormed upstairs.

New trainers/clothes and ferried about has zero to do with the new baby though. Yes, YABU. You overreacted. As did he by telling you to FO

The replies here are ridiculous. He is 11 and he has destroyed something new for no reason, whether absentmindedly or not! You were not unreasonable to tell him he has to replace it. Added to which he should now be swearing at you.
All the posters dying to make an excuse (is he an only, are you going on about the baby too much, does the baby have a different father) is just the usual MN bullshit - sometimes I think people just feel obliged to disagree. I'm surprised no-one has suggested he is SEN yet.
You told him off and told him he would have to pay to replace the item, it is a perfectly reasonable and proportionate response.
Sometimes kids behave badly and there needs to be consequences - as a previous poster said you aren't sending him down a mine or grounding for life.

I would have probably reacted the same way as you. To be honest I would probably be putting further punishment in place for him telling you to fuck off. My oldest is 13 and he wouldn’t dream of saying that to me no matter what I was telling him off for.
I don’t understand why some people think it’s ok for him to act this way just because he’s going to have a baby in the house soon and might be feeling a little bit left out.

Thanks guys.
I thought replacing it was appropriate because he has no value for money at the minute & no I don't want to walk around with a ripped or patched up rain cover on my lovely pram.
He's not left out at all, he has a younger sibling too and no I'm not going on about new baby a lot. He's actually looking forward to it.
The swearing is a new thing with him, since he started seniors.

He should not have sworn and he owes an apology for that.

But telling a child to go away? Whatever he has done (and let's be honest, he hasn't killed anyone), my heart just broke a bit for the lad. I can't imagine telling any of my kids to 'go away'.

Your heart broke for an 11 year old who got told to go away? Seriously?

Why do people make out like things like this are terrible? I'd of told my son to go away too!

Hes hardly going to be scarred for life because he got told to go away, deary me

of course it isn't. Next time he'll think about what he's doing and destroying.

I disagree that one month's pocket money loss is a proportionate response in this instance. So lay off with the "of course" and stupid emoji. Sure, you can disagree with my comment but why so aggressive about it?

@TulipCat presumably 1 months pocket money is what it will cost to replace - so of course it is proportionate!
Maybe consider not posting if you that offended by emojis, the pp was in no way aggressive, you are the only one being rude.

Making him replace something he's ruined just sounds like natural consequences to me. You can support someone through a tricky life change and still have standards for how they are expected to behave.

Is he finding secondary school a bit tricky? That can be a difficult one for a lot of them.

There's nothing aggressive about my post. If thats the way you want to interpret it, maybe you need to ask yourself why you would find aggression on any comment that disagrees with you.

No, I agree with you as well! Swearing is unacceptable, especially when he's the one to blame, and if he doesn't know the value of money then now is the time to learn.