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Cosleeping still and due with DC2 soon

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Loopylivx · 27/10/2023 22:34

Anyone ever been in a similar situation? We still co sleep with DS (he’s 2 in December) we had a few months without , he was sleeping through in his cot and all was going well

but lately it’s been a case of to get some sleep again we need to co sleep, he gets in between 10-12pm

im due with DD in January, already had family comments saying we need to stop this because of DD being due soon

i know but I also need rest to function, I’m so exhausted being pregnant and getting some/a good amount of sleep is needed to make me function normally which I’m prioritising so I’m the best mum I can be to DS and so I’m resting as much as I can with this pregnancy

Has anyone co slept up until birth of DC2? Did it naturally resolve did your kids want their own bed and stop

any tips

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ElGC · 28/10/2023 00:19

Hi, I just joined MN to answer your question!
I co-slept with DS all night every night from about 8 months to 4.5 years. He's almost 5 now and sleeps most of the night in his own bed, but still in the same room as me. DD was born when DS just turned 3 years. I have co-slept with her as well as DS since she was 2 weeks old. The three of us in a king bed! There are some things I dislike about co-sleeping, mostly that my poor husband is in another room, but overall I love it.
Please don't listen to anyone who tells you what they think you 'should' be doing, do what works for you and your partner and children. Co-sleeping has certainly meant all four of us get a lot more sleep than we would do otherwise!

PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 28/10/2023 00:23

Can your DH co sleep in one room with DS and you have baby in another? Otherwise personally I can’t see a way to make it work as your baby will be up all hours at first and no one will get sleep

HowcanIhelp123 · 28/10/2023 00:25

I personally am of the opinion you need to decide now if you're going to cosleep with both or if you want DC1 in own room and do it now.

When DC2 arrives its going to be a huge upheaval for DC1. DC1 will need to adjust and will likely have jealousy issues in this period. It's a big upheaval for them. Kicking them out of their usual bed right when baby arrives to make way for DC2 is not going to help.

DC1 either needs to be used to being back in their own bed before baby arrives, or you'll have to work out sleeping arrangements so you cosleep with both.

To be clear, no judgement on cosleeping, but you really don't want to be turning up home with DC2 in your arms and suddenly telling your toddler they aren't allowed in your bed anymore. It isn't fair on them, as much as it makes your life easier now.

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Rella357 · 28/10/2023 00:39

I cosleep with both my DC. Ds1 is almost 3. He sleeps between my partner and I. My Ds2 sleeps on the side

Fawbs89 · 28/10/2023 00:41

This sounds like a nightmare!

Snorkmaidenn · 28/10/2023 00:56

We co slept with our third child and fourth child was born when he was 7. We all slept well, all 4 of us until he was 8 when he was ready for his own bed. He is now in his thirties, married with his own child with a good career. Do whatever feels right for your family.

Someoneonlyyouknow · 28/10/2023 01:05

I had neighbours who co-slept with 3 children (at the same time). Eventually they all slept in their own rooms. Do what works for your family. If you think baby will disturb your older child move them to their own room now - perhaps you and DH will need to take turns to share with them.

Appleblum · 28/10/2023 01:05

We sleep trained DD1 in preparation for DD2's arrival and she was sleeping in her own bedroom reliably for months. Then guess what? As soon as we came home with DD2 and DD1 saw that baby got to sleep with mama, she regressed and wanted to climb into bed with us too! I ended up co-sleeping with 2 of them for years whilst DH moved into DD's old bedroom.

It worked out for us as I'm a sahm and DH was very precious about his sleep. I truly looked forward to snuggling up with them at the end of the day, was quite reluctant stop co-sleeping but had to when we ran out of room.

denpark · 28/10/2023 01:06

Do whatever works best for you and ignore any comments. It's no one else's business- they're not the ones there at night trying to make it all work. You are!

I coslept with my first as he wouldn't settle at all otherwise (really bad reflux that lasted plus we now know he needs melatonin tablets to be able to sleep).

When my second came along I had her on one side of the bed in a cosleeping crib, me in the middle, DH next to me (or in the spare room if he wanted to get a deeper sleep) and the DS in a single bed on the other side of the bed. It worked very well. Everyone got enough sleep, DS didn't feel pushed out by the new baby and I then gradually transitioned him into his 'big boy bedroom'.

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