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Cheryl22x · 26/10/2023 18:12

Hi I’ve came to Mumsnet for some opinions on my daughters paternal grandmother. I think she is massively jealous and wanted to be number one grandparent as it is her first I also think she is very toxic with some of the things she has said in the past. Sorry it’s a long one!
She doesn’t come to my parents house where my and baby live because ‘ the baby won’t look at her if we are around ‘ ‘ I should be aloud to have her by myself ‘ My mum was buying whites for the baby ‘ you don’t buy untill you know the gender’ She was waiting around places when I was getting my scans so she could get a photograph first. In hospital when I just had baby ‘ she phoned to ask when I was announcing it on social media so she could quickly’. She came to visit the baby at my parents house (where baby is living) She ignored my parents couldn’t even look at them. She kept repeating that baby had wind and asked which way I was winding her. She made a comment when she left holding baby her words were ‘ I don’t know how anyone could harm a baby’ which was very weird to come out with. Then.. the second last time she visited me and my mum were talking about giving water to baby when she is older. Paternal grandmother interrupted basically shouting ‘ apparently your not meant to give them water such and such a midwife said’ Then made a passive aggressive comment when she was getting up and leaving ‘ I best get up and do something’ which I think was aimed at my parents because they were sat there.
What do people think of this? Am I over reacting being paranoid or is this normal behaviour?

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DinaofCloud9 · 26/10/2023 18:18

I'd imagine she feels left out as you live with your parents so they will be around all the time.

Cheryl22x · 26/10/2023 18:53

Yes that’s correct I copied it to Mumsnet also and made a mistake. Your comment isn’t an opnion.

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Planesplanesplanes · 26/10/2023 19:01

I know my comment isn’t an opinion.

You have two identical threads running on MN with the same thing.

Needmorelego · 26/10/2023 19:04

Is the baby's Dad living with you or involved in the baby's life?
She could be genuine in being concerned about being "left out" if her son isn't involved - but the baby is her grandchildren and it would be nice for a relationship to exist.
Could you take the baby to hers for a visit? Say it's too soon for baby to be without you so you will need to stay but let her have a cuddle and feed etc (if bottle feeding). When baby is older she could look after her for an afternoon (I am assuming baby is newborn). Unless she is known to be abusive or a drunk or something then why shouldn't she?
Things like the water comment - just say things like "oh ok... I will check with the health visitor about that".

Cheryl22x · 26/10/2023 19:14

I have offered to bring her over she has been told all she has to do is ask. But we hear nothing. She said she shouldn’t have to be baby sat. Her rudeness in my parents house says it all.

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Needmorelego · 26/10/2023 20:02

Could you invite her somewhere neutral to meet - a coffee shop, walk in the park with the baby so your parents aren't there?
But to be honest - she does sound a bit of a cow and isn't helping herself.

Cheryl22x · 26/10/2023 21:45

i have said I will bring baby to see her. She doesn’t ask. It’s very confusing she wants everything on her terms

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Goodornot · 26/10/2023 21:50

She made a comment when she left holding baby her words were ‘ I don’t know how anyone could harm a baby’ which was very weird to come out with.

I don't think so. The first time I had close contact with a baby I was about 12. Mums friend had one. I used to sit looking at him and talking to him. In awe of this tiny person I was aware that child abuse existed and I remember thinking how could anyone harm a baby.

I think sometimes if you haven't seen a baby for long or ever really before you forget how vulnerable they are and it does cross your mind.

She sounds a PITA but I'm not sure what you want? If it's just unhelpful comments ...oh right, yeah thanks and carry on.

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