I lashed out at Daughter

[morrrr]

I feel absolutely awful.

I have 2 kids (3&6) and have been under a massive amount of pressure with work (not that that excuses anything).

My youngest has always been a bit difficult. This morning, I was rushing for work and trying to get them dressed. Youngest is fussy with clothing and she started crying and I had to change her outfit 3 times.

I will be honest, I was furious because I just needed to leave. My anger took over and I was shouting at her, which obviously made her more upset. I had changed her leggings twice already and she lay down for me to change them a third time. I was rough and pulled her leggings off her really hard and she scraped her elbow on the carpet and has a carpet burn.

I feel absolutely terrible. I've been crying all morning. She's so sweet and didn't deserve that. I obviously didn't want to hurt her or mean to cause the burn. I have never done this before to either of my children.

Not sure what I'm expecting from this post but I just feel terrible. And if she goes and tells everyone that I hurt her elbow 😭. I'm so ashamed.

Sweetheart, I absolutely promise you every mother on the planet (ok maybe bar a few saints) have done the same. You feel terrible because you are a GOOD mother and you love her and look, you can see that she doesn't deserve it, you said so! Abusers think the person deserves it. That's not you. Take care of yourself please. You'll be ok. Huge self-forgiveness prescribed by Dr Heldinadream.

Give her a choice. I used to lay out three of everything on the bed and she got to choose which top and bottom and that solved tantrums over clothing.

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