Is parenting from 1-2 harder or 2-3???

[SadTimes96]

This is following from a thread I just saw. I have 2 DC atm, very small and both under 2.

Right now things are going good and even though we might be in a difficult stage with them I am enjoying it.

I am frightened of the idea of having a 3rd (though I want a 3rd) and people have been putting me off. I thought that going from 2-3 kids was the hardest jump? If 1-2 was the hardest, then I don't mind going for 3/4 kids 😂 ... In the future that is.

Ask me in a few months 😂

2-3

You can no longer man mark and you are outnumbered and thus it is lord of the flies

My own experience obvs:

1 to 2 - hard but once you're adjusted, fine as you'll know
2 to 3 - complete doddle, they fit right in
3 to 4 - everything goes tits up, you need extra limbs, a bigger car, potentially more bedrooms/space etc, hardest transition by far.

2-3.

Think carefully if they get one and are healthy. It can upset the balance.

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This makes the most sense to me. One child per adult is fine when we go out ... It's nice. But idk how I will cope with the 3rd.

Personally I found one to two harder than two to three or three to four. Anything past two seemed easier, I knew what I was doing and could juggle more than one

I found 1-2 much more of an adjustment than 2-3. After I’d had two everything was pretty intense anyway and number three -about 18 months after number two - just seemed to fit in without upping the intensity that much. When I just had one things were fairly calm so having two was more of a shock.

I have 4. Found 1-2 the hardest as you deal with sharing yourself. 2-3 the easiest. 3-4 wasn't too much different but is harder now because we had a larger age gap! So I would say if you want a 3rd go for it sooner rather than later! I had 2 years between my first 3 and that was perfect they are all into the same thing, activities can suit all three etc! I had a 5 year gap with my 4th and it's a lot harder.

Hmm, I have 20 mo and a 7 mo ... I don't really want to have another in 2 years 😭

I was planning on waiting 4 years and then having 2 under 2 again. Ofcourse you can't plan everything in life but I can try 😭😭😭 ... Not sure if I should just have another in 2 years now. Seems a bit much in my mind though.