So sue my 2nd baby January, DS will have just turned 2. It looks like an ELCS this time round so my midwife said at my consultant appt next week they’ll show me the week and offer me dates, I turn 39weeks on the Sunday so they’ll most likely offer me Monday and I’ll be ‘priority’ as I am previous c section mum, and Ds was large at birth
for background, 1st time round I didn’t know how to say no to visitors. I wanted to but didn’t. My family consists of my mum, dad, brother and his wife who are all amazing and we’re close. They were so kind and considerate and helpful and I didn’t feel like I had to host them.
DH’s mum, and his sibling (with his kids) were a different kettle of fish. I won’t go into it too much but basically entered our home asking why we didn’t have the kettle on, Dh’s sibling let their 3 kids run riot (literally) with no telling them to stop. So to see the house we had tidied for ourselves and visitors be trashed by kids less than an hour later when it all fell on DH because of my limited movement was a bit annoying. I got the vibe his sibling wanted to bring the kids to get them out of the house as it was Christmas holidays.
I won’t go on about his mum, she’s lovely we have a good relationship but by far was the worst visitor, popped her feet up and really wanted to be a guest. This was 3 days post c section and maybe a week later I wouldn’t have been as annoyed by this but yes.
I was going to try and pick a Thursday, so I’d go home Friday and then people could meet DC2 following weekend. However my mum is having our DS for us when we go in, and will bring him home. I don’t particularly mind my family (the 4 mentioned) visiting within the first week as I was very comfortable and they were very considerate, but
i feel guilty and like I can’t say this to DH as he’ll be upset some of his family have to wait until later. PS it’s not all, his mum and dad come seperately (divorced) and his dad, with his new wife, were amazing too I’d feel fine with them coming
Im stressing already and dreading the influx of visitors. What can and can’t I do???