It's much too young to think about neurodiversity.
She just sounds grumpy when she wakes up, which, honestly, fair 😂
I would just give her a little time to come to. If you don't want to breastfeed maybe offer her a bottle or cup of warm cow's milk or a dummy if she uses one. Or try to get her attached to a comfort object like a teddy or blanket. It sounds like she's comfort seeking with breastfeeding, which is absolutely fine and age appropriate, but if you don't want to offer that with bf, that's your right too. But I'd try to meet that need in another way or redirect the bf requests if you would like to cut down or have a boundary around when you feed.
They do sound like totally normal toddler tantrums, which can vary enormously, as can the age of onset. She's on the early side but it's not unusual. Whereas on the other end of the scale some children don't start this until about a year later, so don't worry if she seems different to other babies that you know. It's like walking and sitting and rolling - there's a range of what is normal and none of them are wrong.
At her age while there's no harm in getting into good habits of using language like "be gentle" they are really physical and not so much operating in the language centres of their brain yet, so I'd look to more physical ways of intervening (I don't mean physical punishment) like for example, if she wants to hit, teach her "high five" and redirect to this, or if she wants to hit things to make a noise, hand her a toy drum or plastic hammer or something that can suffice for those purposes and is appropriate (like a wooden spoon and saucepan).
It also helps to back up any verbal instruction with physical demonstration, so physically blocking something while saying "no touch" or "ouch. Hot."
Control the environment as far as possible simply to make life easier for yourself and reduce the amount of time you're spending trying to stop her doing something all day every day. That means make your home toddler proof, and use some form of containment (buggy, reins, carrying, sling) when you're out and about unless you can tell that the environment is safe like a park with a gate, or a toddler group.
If she's being very physical during a tantrum the focus is simply on making sure she can't hurt herself or others and is safe until she calms down. It's totally normal for a one year old not to have emotional regulation skills yet. It's common and safe and healthy for them to use breastfeeding as a source of coregulation, but if you don't want to use that, then try googling "coregulation methods for toddlers" and try out some of the suggestions.