Partners 10 year old son acting up now he knows I’m having a little girl

[Sickofit189]

I’m due in December & this is my first. He has 2 kids from previous relationship 15,10

we all went out last weekend and the 10 year old was bossing dad around “take me to the shop to get PRIME NOW!” “You will take me to the arcades now! “ , stole his lighter and started setting things on fire and on the way back home he was kicking his chair and my partner was just saying “I can feel someone kicking my chair!”
he was also punching the car door too. Usually he is really well behaved. He has been coddled a lot as he is rainbow baby and still sleeps with mum in her bed. He even uses a baby seat even though his head touches the ceiling.

ive decided when he meets my little girl. His sister, I’m going to watch him like a hawk!

Does this behaviour last forever ? My partners a bit of a mug and doesn’t say anything or even notice.

Hilarious 😂

Yeah it is a bit 😂 just fancied a mini moan

My partners a bit of a mug and doesn’t say anything or even notice.

Then you’re being very optimistic having a baby with him. Best of luck.

If your partner is a mug…..why are you having his baby?

These posts make me laugh. Did you not notice these things before getting pregnant?

The 10 year old obviously feels pushed out.... so imagine it's your own child OP. Step back and let your partner deal with it perhaps alone time with his own dad.

The child is cross and angry about you having s baby with his dad.
Natural reaction.
It would be same if baby boy.
How will you and the dad address that,? What are you going to do to listen to his views and reassure him and tackle the behaviours ?

It's not going to get better unless your partner doesn't stop ignoring and pretending that his son's behaviour is not happening. As they say, behaviour is communication and he needs to tackle things head on. You're not going to be able to prevent ss acting out towards the baby. For example are you always going to sit in the back of the car? How are you going to stop ss waking up baby when you go to the loo? Your partner's behaviour is a major red flag and a warning that if he hurts your dd then he will ignore or pretend it's not happening. This is not a good man to have a child with.

I think your partner is doing the right thing by refusing to rise to the provocation. Let the lad get it out of his system and it may all settle down as you all adjust to the new reality.

If not, that’s the time to address any issues. I’m sure you’ll watch everyone around your baby like a hawk…everyone does!

Never let him alone with the baby.

He's obviously jealous and worried about 'losing' his dad.

A ten year old in a bloody car seat when they are too big for it is dangerous and stupid. It would cause more injuries than using a normal seat belt.

His not entirely a mug or else I wouldn’t be with him. Little Willow happened during me being on contraceptive, his just a bit lax with parenting, I however will be doing most of the parenting and I’m ok with that. His very calm and chill and I’m the opposite!

100%. Partner said he feels safe but I said it’s the complete opposite as his head could snap from it almost touching the ceiling if a crash happened !

If usually well behaved and he's now stealing lighters and setting light to things (what?!) I'd be seriously concerned about his mental health, because that is not normal behavior.

Calling your partner a mug is also horrible and I have no idea why you thought he was a good prospect to have a baby with.

Lovely family.

A bit lax? He needs to sort this reassure his son (15 year old girl or boy and same parent) otherwise this is going to go badly

and doing all the parenting isn’t good either

Sorry I didn’t mean that. His not really & yes I’m a bit worried but I said he needs one on ones with the boys. Yes it is a cause for alarm. I just hope things settle once she’s here

No one is this dim...

Ridiculous idea to "do all the parenting"
You are equal parents for the new baby
Why do you want to do it all alone ? That should not be your aim

Un less you planning already to separate? In which case he needs to learn as will eventually have the girl part time

Is your partner going to start parenting his son through this adjustment?

Some people are just unbelievable.

A half-sibling is a huge upheaval
for a 10yo. The child needs active parenting and reassurance that he is not being pushed aside for a new family. He needs more than words, his father needs to show that with action.

the 10yo may not even realize it, but the misbehavior is a test to see how his father reacts. Does Dad still love me even if I am not perfect like the new baby? What do I have to do to draw focus away from the new baby and get my father’s attention again?

This can't be true. Surely.

I forgot it's half term in some places.

Why don't you have a sunroof fitted to the car and then as the boy grows you can open the sunroof to accommodate his head.

@Jewelspun stop it 🤣🤣🤣

The step son might come around to it when the baby is here just stop pushing him out and get him involved in this