9yr old girls not wanting to wash/clean teeth

[Strawberrycream1]

Anyone have 9yr old girls (no SEN issues) who are reluctant to clean teeth, wash, wash face, wash hands after going to toilet, use deodorant etc?
I still have to wipe her bum after a poo as she can’t reach or do it!! (I have shown her time and time again but she ends up with poo all in her knickers even using moist wipes)
It’s driving me crazy every morning and evening we have the argument and ends up shouting to clean teeth and wash face, I often have to do it for her or it won’t get done. She runs out after having a wee not washing hands and when I say to do it she will quickly run water over her hands with no soap!
Getting her to shower/bath is a battle too.
She says ‘forgets’ to do these all things and apply stick deodorant but doesn’t forget other things.
She loves clothes/having her hair perfect/jewellery/bit of lip gloss etc so it doesn’t make sense!

Well, she can't have jewellery, makeup, hair done until teeth brushed, and she's washed etc.

I think you need to stop wiping her bum. Stand in there with her until she’s done it properly and then after a while of this you can leave her to it. What if she needs a poo at school or when you aren’t around? She can’t go around with poo in her knickers. That would be my priority one. Don’t do it for her but supervise.

Are you sure there are no SEN issues? Having to wipe a 9 year old bum is not normal. She could get her period within the next couple of years so needs to understand how to be hygienic. Also not that far off secondary.

She's 9, has no issues, and you still wipe her bum? You're either missing something or completely enabling her laziness. My 13 year old gets really lazy with showering but is obsessed with hair, make up and skincare products, so when she recently started skimming showers and fighting about it I removed all the make up for 3 days and told her next time it's a week and then I move in to skincare. It's worked although still needs reminding. Cleanliness is non negotiable and she's old enough to know better so I would remove TV time etc