Constant teasing

[EmeraldTheSeahorse]

How do you deal with constant teasing? My son is 9 but he is constantly and I mean constantly winding up my oldest child who is autistic so has massive meltdowns kicks off screaming the house down and he loves the reaction he gets. I’ve tried over and over again to get him to stop but he won’t. I’ve taken his devices I’ve tried what I can and he won’t stop it. What else can I do?

Sending a child straight to a naughty step or equivalent works quite well, I find.

Firstly, it gives your other son a breather from being teased. An immediate removal allows him to relax for the time period.

Secondly, it takes away the fun aspect of the teasing for the 9 year old. Being made to sit on your own away from the entertainment for a period of time is hard for 9 year olds. There is also a connection with the teasing and the punishment if you send him to the naughty step/ room straight away.

For a 9 year old, I would recommend a 10 minute time out, but that's ultimately up to you. You need to take it seriously, though. If his butt moves from the step and he tries to leave, you add on extra minutes. I think you'll find it should work.

If he really does it on purpose and to just get a reaction from his autistic sibling, then that's actually him being very cruel.

So I wouldn't give any chances i.e. he gets removed to his room/out of the situation on the first comment/action and limit the time they spend together.

At the same time i'd try my best to spend as much one to one time with him as possible,talking ,having fun and trying to find out what the underlying issue is. Is it that he feels left out/ not getting enough attention because of his brother needs, is it that he missed out /had to police his own behaviour for years to avoid meltdowns etc?

Basically, trying to put a stop to it right away, while trying to figure out why it's happening.

He just enjoys it, I think siblings teasing is a common thing anyway but he likes the reaction it causes as he finds it funny when she kicks off. He is constantly laughing at her.