Dd is 15 months old. In laws live a 20 second walk away.
They have never had dd on their own before. When she was born I got the whole I will take her out for walks in the pram, give you a break and nothing came of it.
I went back to work and mil offered to have dd three days a week. Two weeks before I was due back, she took on a job so now dd is in nursery and I'm glad she is because she loves it.
Mil has now quit that job and offered to take dd again, I said no because she loves it there, plus mil has proven to be all talk and no action from the start.
She is now pressuring me to have dd on my day off, but I want that day with dd alone. She is trying to get me to go with her to a toddler group and I don't want to spend my days off at toddler groups because I hate them. Dd is in nursery three days and I take her to another group too. I think some days at home with me are just as important.
I've been unwell with flu and mil has not offered once to have dd to let me rest.
I just think she wants to show her off to social media and her friends at these groups but when it comes to the stuff that matters they aren't really interested.
She has never once offered to take dd and let me and dh go out. He works away too.
How do I enforce my boundaries without offending anyone? It's doing my head in, all the lip service in person but no action. She keeps asking and asking when I see her.