Attachment Disorder

[Aimee3]

Hi,
I believe my 9 year old son has an attachment Disorder and it makes it very difficult to parent him.
I would love to hear from any other mums going through the same thing?
Thanks xx

What reason leads you to think that?

I was a foster carer and knew a lot about it way back when. It was more obvious in the younger children to be honest.

Why do you think they have an attachment disorder? Sorry I don't have personal experience (my child is 2) but it is a worry I have more generally

where do you think he got an attachment disorder from? I have fostered a lot of children with attachment disorders

Sorry I have been a bit clearer, I have been seeing a Child and Adolescent Psychotherapist for a while now and she has confirmed this. I had terrible PND when he was a baby meaning I was emotionally not there for him when he was small.

I wonder if people who have experience of fostering or adoption would be the best people to help? I know there are books about this.

Bless you, that’s tough.
I did lots of therapeutic play- a system called Theraplay- to help my DC build bonds with adults.
It was about helping them feel seen and learn to see adults as trustworthy and relevant. Helping them feel safe, learn to regulate by playing in a safe way. Building all the bits that didn’t happen because you were too poorly to do it.

who else does he have in his life? Dad, grandma, nursery staff?

My Daughter has this she's 8.
I've found given her lots of reassurance I'm here and available whilst also giving her, her own freedom has helped massively.
Things like ensuring she has a friend group to play in. 1-1 activities. Talking about who else is in our family that we love and trust etc. it has got a little bit easier. At one stage I couldn't go to the shop without her crying for me. She is also Autistic so think sometimes that makes it harder for her to let me go too. As im the safe space for her.
It is hard especially with the mum mum mum every 5 minutes. But it gets easier.