Basically me and my (3 yr old) DS's father split just after his 1st birthday. He only just recently got back in touch just before his 3rd birthday. He says things like he would only see his child if me &him are on speaking terms otherwise he wouldn't see him. Also my child stays at my parents house 1 day at the weekend &his father basically said he couldn't get up to see his son because he had no money but the very next day (when my son was due to stay at my parents house for the night) his father suddenly had money to come up to my house.. it's like he manages to only 'be able' to come down to mine when he's son isn't there. The whole point for him to come down is because his child is there to see him. He's done this before and when I refused to let him come down cause my son was in my parents he threatened revenge prn, he said "your lucky I haven't put our sx videos on the Internet". I want my son to his dad in his life but with all this I'm thinking maybe my son is better off without his dad. I'm also scared incase he does do the revenge p*rn for not letting him come down and see me.