Picked on

[guiling]

Just found out my 5 YO is being picked on at school led by 1 boy in particular. Saying "i don't want to sit next to you" and "you can't do that but i can". In playground he gets roughed up and plays tag but is always the tagger (or the other way round). He is a v good boy and always follows the rules.

A couple of dodgy incidents the teacher has witnessed but no one sure what has happened and how happy my DS was to be involved.

DS doesnt complain and hasnt said anything, but his behaviour at home (terrible meltdowns, hitting etc) plus being told he had been hit in the playground made me talk to the tracher and i found out the above.

At bedtime he told me he says stop but no one listens.

I am pretty sad, can anyone give some advice on how to help him?

Move him schools. I moved my son when he was 6. Never regretted my decision.

Thanks. Not really an option for us and it's only been happening a few weeks so would rather try other things first

This breaks my heart. My son is five and in year one. He is also like your DS a very good boy, polite and follows the rules. I would hate for this to be happening . I would arrange to speak to his teacher and have a serious talk with her. It is their job to monitor this and to stop it from happening to your poor boy . I hope things get better for you both. Sending virtual hugs xxx

I understand. It was hard for us as a family but I knew the antagonist in my sons school was going to be relentless and when my son moved to his new school my son was so much happier.

I wish you well and hope you get it sorted as your son may have anywhere between 6 to 11 years coping with this.

It's hard to know at this age what is going on. He loves school and is hsppy going in and always says he's had a good day. Teacher says it's only sometimes. Sorry if i gave wrong impression above.

So i guess i'm looking for advice on how to navigate, build his confidence etc

He sounds the same as my little boy. He loves school and is always happy to go in. I would still have a chat with the teacher @guiling this should not be happening x

Thanks @Sam202012 the teacher is taking steps to deal with it. I need help for me to help him. Maybe try find friends in other classes (i know the mums)? Try get him to stand up for himself?

When i told him to push them away and walk away, he responded: But we're not allowed to push at school

I'm not sure how much is verging on bullying and how much is rough play that he isnt comfortable with and doesnt assert himself to say so