baby still not sleeping well at months, plase tell me your was worse,as im starting to lose the will to live

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how many months?

sorry that wasment to say 8 months
can't even type now due to sleep deprevation

If i say ds was 3 before we had a full night would that make you feel better or worse

its hideous isn't it?
ds didn't sleep through until 16 months
dd is still waking regularly at 12 months
we have adjusted

how often is it?
can you and your oh do a shift system
does lo sleep in the day so you can get your head down?

I don't have this moniker for no reason .

gecko doesn't sleep more than 3 hours at a time and she is 13 months

thanks evereyone at least i feel im not the only one

thanks for the kindness of asking questions but ive tried EVERYTHING think im just gonna have to ride it out

why does everyone keep asking me about dds sleeping habits aswell, asif to rub salt into my overe tired wounds

dh does help but only at weekend as hes got work [obviuosly looking after a nightmare baby is not work

you are not the only one but I do understand about all the questions -they get really wearing don't they? DD is sleeping well now at nearly 2 but she was a horror. I think once you just accept it then you feel a bit better about it. Things do settle down in the end but when you are in the thick of it, it is absolutely unbearable - you understand why sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture!

I didn't mean questions from fellow MNers by the way, I meant from other people in your life "is she sleeping through yet?, really? you are not still feeding/cuddling her/comforting her/getting up to her/putting her in your bed/etc are you? You just want to tell everyone where to get off.

thanks twofalls thats exactly how i feel, its even causing rows between dh and myself, i quit my job as i really wanted to be with dd now it seems everything is my responsibility, although it was before anyway.

heyho
onwards and upwards they say....

i do feela bit better now though.
after hearing from everyone on here, maybe others ask as just to make conversation but it just feel like im being critasized all the time

i honestly now think dd doesnt actally need that much she she seems to thrive on 3 hours a day !and by that i mean in 24 hours

That makes it worse doesn't it, you are up all night with them. At 7am you are hanging with absoloute tiredness and they are all bloody smiles

dd is 3.9

She has been sleeping through for about a month and a half.

That's it.

When people used to ask me when she was a baby "oh, is she sleeping through yet?" I would just answer "oh no, of course not!" in a sing-song voice as if it was the best thing in the world. They never bothered asking again.

It's tough... you get to the stage where you honestly don't need to sleep too much.

You have my sympathy

Has she always slept so little or is it a recent thing?

She might be teething. Put in a paracetamol suppository just before bedtime and see if she sleeps better.

What do you mean when you say you tried everything?

yes, neitehr of mine were good sleepers. but there is a huge difference between wake-up-loads-of-times and don't-need-sleep. at 8 months she should need about 14 hours sleep a day. which is probably about what you need at the moment.

even if he is the one working out of the home he could still take a shift so yo can get a couple of hours in

tell him he's on duty from ten till two and get yourself to bed at nine a couple of nights a week.

someone once said not sleeping was a sign of great intelligence - well you have to take consolation where you can.

maybe she will need a bit more kip as she gets more mobile?

even when dd was a newborn she never slept day or night, i didnt realise that was possible

3 hours a day since birth is definitely not normal. Is something keeping her up? Seriously, could she be hurting somewhere?

Do try giving her some paracetamol. If she sleeps better/longer, have her checked out by a paediatrician.

DS2 is 7mo and has never slept for longer than 4 hours at a time (I think that happened just once actually) - he usually only sleeps for around 2.5/3hrs before waking.

DH and I are usually at each others throats at around 3am as DS2 is whining/crying (again) and we try to re-settle him, and then we have competitive tiredness in the morning. The situation is hell and the thought of it continuing for another 2+ years..OMG

thanks ws i feel like divorcing that bastard of a dh today

shes seen the drs loads and they say she couldnt be healthier and that shes "perfect"

i have thought of going to a and e with her though and saying i want to see a paed
although will they think im nuts

when ds was born i remember thinking 'right we have 2 weeks before (ex) dp starts back at work to try and get you sleeping!!!! Oh how niave (?spelling). At nearly three i still dont get a full nights sleep...... It's tough isn't it!!! What made it worse is all those other mums with babies a similar age waffling on about what good sleepers their little ones were etc and i would already nearly be in tears most days through total lack of sleep.... that usually would just about finish me off and i would drive back from play group in sheds!!!

Does she have a paed she sees regularly? (Sorry I don't really know how the system works in UK.) Does he know your DD sleeps so little?

Try a night with paracetamol. If it helps your DD sleep better, definitely take her to the paed.

Can you get a ref to a sleep assesment unit from your gp..... we had one for ds because he has a mild sort of sleep apneoa.... they now think to be the cause of his frequent waking. My health visitor was great as well and for a two month period when we were doing some serious sleep training with ds i had weekly visits from a sure start health visitor as well...... sometimes it just helps to know they are interested!

I haven't gone to bed yet, but I'm going soon honestly .

I do agree with the other posters about the sleep situation; you really need to work on the daytime sleep before the night sleep will improve.

DS2 will have his 3 naps a day IF I put him in his cot regardless of how alert he seems, otherwise he would just keep going all day and would be miserable as sin by bedtime.

I think around 2.5/3 hrs sleep during the day is average(?)

Do you have a fairly rountinely structured day, with meals, bath & bedtime etc?

Unfortunately frequent night waking during the first year is pretty common, DS was a nightmare sleeper til about 9 months. It is hellish, isn't it?

You will find loads of support on this thread, please pop over for a shoulder to weep on